My mother thinks that my sister is someone else, I have corrected her a few times and she then recognizes my sister. On the other hand my sister just lets my Mom think she is a friend, I do not think that is good for either one. My sister gets aggravated at me when I suggest that she corrects Mom. My Mom seldom treated my sister lovingly when she was growing up (me either but I left at 15) So now my Mom treats her a little bit better, I guess my Sister doesn’t want to rock the boat. Opinions?
Sometimes I think we have to choose our "battles" carefully. My own thinking is to let it go because as you know the disease progresses and your mom won't be able to recognize/remember much more than just that. It's kind of like beating your head against the wall trying to make her see something she's not going to see in the long run.
Also, there may be some days she remembers something and other days she doesn't. When my mom, who is 95 with Alzheimer's, used to get really stressed - it affected her memory even more than on days she was calmer. Heck, that even happens to me at 58!
So I would say to just let things flow naturally, you will face much bigger issues down the line - save yourself some unneeded stress.
Best wishes to you all -
You are one busy lady and you need all the strength you can get to carry on with those daily responsibilities.
May you too have peace -
Does mom have problems recognizing you as a daughter?
One of the things you can do whenever you are greeting someone with any form of dementia is to greet them on their eye level and say "Hi mom, it's me Lidia" your sister should do the same as well.
But your sister is correct there really is no point in correcting someone with dementia. For one great reason....you will NEVER win an argument with someone with dementia. An argument will just lead to frustration. It is not a matter of "rocking the boat" a person with dementia does not know they are "wrong" or what they think is not fact.
Mom will not be able to learn new things. If she didn't do it before, she can't be taught now. If not already, she will become like a small child. This is a horrible desease. You are going to lose the Mom u knew. TV and dreams are going to become part of her reality. She is going to say things that u consider a lie but thats how her brain is sorting out what "she" sees and hears and how the brain interprets and processes the info. Not how it actually is. So, you just let it go.