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A family friend who had dementia and was in a wheelchair would cry "Help! Help!" over and over all day. She was at home with plenty of kind and caring help, but that didn't seem to matter.
Yes. In one NH where i visited a relative, another resident would holler “help me!” or yell “mama!”. It’s sad but I’m sure it’s maddening for residents and staff.
When I worked on different floors in a hospital, there was at least 1 patient per week. They were usually calmer sitting in front of the nurses desk where staff could talk with them until citing agencies would not allow for privacy issues. So it was back in their rooms with help,me, help me.
Yes, frequently happens in my experience as well. My FIL did it, he would call out for help and yell that he was dying.
When my son had his LAR surgery there was a man on his hospital floor that yelled "help" for hours. He didn't stop until his wife arrived and he started up right away again after she left. The nurses said that his wife told them he does it at home whenever he can't see her.
Yes, my very elderly Aunt with mod/advanced dementia did it. It seemed to be a phase for her, she eventually stopped doing it. She was already on meds for mood and anxiety at the time.
I spent 5+ years caring and advocating for my mom in a nursing home. There were some residents who would call for help repeatedly, but typically stopped when someone paid attention to them, which could be 20 minutes or more later. :-\ One man (a retired medical doctor) typically did this in the evening and for hours at night, but often even with a private male aide with him. I viewed it as a form of fear and frustration; he didn't feel safe. A couple of women did it during the day.
So, is it normal? In today's conventional nursing homes? Yes. Nursing homes are populated mostly by vulnerable dependent elders who (contrary to what is required under the law - 42 CFR § 483.24) are generally neglected psychologically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.
Call me crazy, but truly after what I witnessed in my mother's NH over 5+ years, I'd rather depart this existence than be trapped in one of these types of "facilities."
Sadly you're correct. It's not easy for the aids either, since some can (and have) reached their breaking point pretty easily. They can take out this frustration on the residents, whose faults sometimes aren't their own.
This facility it seems the more "trying" patients are on the second floor so there is more fussing, arguing and noise.
I can't blame you at all for not wanting to be a resident in one of these facilities; it can be a depressing predicament.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
She frequently became agitated and would cry "help me, help" over and over.
I have no idea what her condition was; she had attentive family members who visited frequently.
The brain is a mysterious organ.
Sometimes it's a daughter's name.. Maria Maria. Or they learn a kind nurse or aide's name so Susan Susan or whoever.
When my son had his LAR surgery there was a man on his hospital floor that yelled "help" for hours. He didn't stop until his wife arrived and he started up right away again after she left. The nurses said that his wife told them he does it at home whenever he can't see her.
So, is it normal? In today's conventional nursing homes? Yes. Nursing homes are populated mostly by vulnerable dependent elders who (contrary to what is required under the law - 42 CFR § 483.24) are generally neglected psychologically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually.
Call me crazy, but truly after what I witnessed in my mother's NH over 5+ years, I'd rather depart this existence than be trapped in one of these types of "facilities."
This facility it seems the more "trying" patients are on the second floor so there is more fussing, arguing and noise.
I can't blame you at all for not wanting to be a resident in one of these facilities; it can be a depressing predicament.