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Yes. What you'll sometimes see is the demented elder turn against the family member who's doing the most caregiving for her while being sweet as pie to everyone else. I've seen it in my own mother who lashes out at me but treats others like gold.
Thank you for responding. That is exactly what is happening in my situation. We've always had such a good relationship. Now she seems so angry with me and is making horrible accusations to other members of the family, and anyone else who will listen, about me. She honestly just seems to hate me now. It's heartwrenching.
My Aunt was in a car accident back in the late 60s. She went thru the Windshield. It caused some brain damage. She couldn't talk for a long time. My Mom did not drive at the time so she relied on my Aunts Ex to take her to see my Aunt, her sister. My Aunt literally hated her Ex and was furious that Mom was with him. Mom tried to explain, but my Aunt wouldn't have it. Of course this upset Mom and she talked to the Dr. He said they will always take it out on the one the love. Maybe because they feel that person is more likely to forgive them.
There really is no normal in dementia. And yes, this happens. We have seen strong examples here on Forum. Sometimes a mistaken loving of someone, sometimes a mistaken hating. Sometimes it passes. Sometimes it doesn't. One OP has a husband who is hated because "he stole my Christmas cards". Dementia is as individual in its manifestations as a fingerprint.
I think that there is NO one-size-fits-all when it comes to dementia.
We all try to make sense of something that is, well, insensible.
Sadly, a lot of hurt feelings can occur when a LO begins to 'lose it'--my own mom, who has not been formally dxed with dementia most DEFINITELY has some serious deficits and can't carry conversations with more than maybe 2 'streams of thought'. Sometimes she very kind with me and then the next time I speak to or see her, she's kind of mean, or cranky. She is never this way with any of my sibs, just me.
IDK. I try not to take it personally anymore, but it still stings when she is unkind to me.
As the brain 'dies' or even 'dries out', cognitive function changes and there's not a lot you can do to ameliorate that. Just say to yourself 'this isn't the person I know.' Yeah, I know, easy to say, hard to put into play.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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My Aunt was in a car accident back in the late 60s. She went thru the Windshield. It caused some brain damage. She couldn't talk for a long time. My Mom did not drive at the time so she relied on my Aunts Ex to take her to see my Aunt, her sister. My Aunt literally hated her Ex and was furious that Mom was with him. Mom tried to explain, but my Aunt wouldn't have it. Of course this upset Mom and she talked to the Dr. He said they will always take it out on the one the love. Maybe because they feel that person is more likely to forgive them.
We all try to make sense of something that is, well, insensible.
Sadly, a lot of hurt feelings can occur when a LO begins to 'lose it'--my own mom, who has not been formally dxed with dementia most DEFINITELY has some serious deficits and can't carry conversations with more than maybe 2 'streams of thought'. Sometimes she very kind with me and then the next time I speak to or see her, she's kind of mean, or cranky. She is never this way with any of my sibs, just me.
IDK. I try not to take it personally anymore, but it still stings when she is unkind to me.
As the brain 'dies' or even 'dries out', cognitive function changes and there's not a lot you can do to ameliorate that. Just say to yourself 'this isn't the person I know.' Yeah, I know, easy to say, hard to put into play.