My elderly mother has dementia which is progressing and mobility/ incontinence problems among many other things.
She is in hospital long term and we are in the process of finding a nursing home. I live with her at the family home and will continue to live here after she has passed. I have a baby on the way in April and trying to be as prepared ahead as I can along with being there for my mother.
I’m trying to get the house in order as it is one huge big clutter. My mother has a lot of old clothes, shoes and handbags that she’s has for years and years. She can’t and won’t ever wear or use these again. Things like boots, heeled shoes, evening handbags, and dresses for different occasions etc. I feel it’s wrong to clear them out now but at the same time they will never be used again and taking up so much space.
I suppose I’m trying to balance what’s morally and practically the right thing to do.
Has anyone else been in this situation?
There is NO age related decline at 43 years old. And the fact that you're going to be having a baby next year certainly makes sense that your mom is that young.
So why is she really needing to be in a "nursing home" at her young age? We're missing a lot of pertinent information here I do believe, before anyone(myself included)can answer your question seriously.
So you may need to start over or at least tell us what really is going on.
Jewelry in the home I would not do. It will go missing and aides may not have the time to make sure the resident has her jewelry on.
Certainly, with a baby on the way, it's better to do this sooner rather than later. Babies have a way of sapping every bit of physical and emotional energy for a long time. You won't want to do it then.
Box it, bag it and call a local charity to come and take whatever you don't want or need. The Salvation Army, hospice-run thrift shops, and Habitat for Humanity have all been helpful to me. You make an appointment, and they arrive with a truck, put the stuff in the truck and hand you a receipt. Easy peasy.