My FIL (full time in depends) uses his hands all the time to assist himself with bowel movements. He is 95 years old and apparently has been doing this for years. He thinks that a quick swipe with dry toilet paper is enough and refuses to use the wet wipes. He is in a wheelchair and I get him to the sink to wash as much as possible. But when I leave the room I have little assurance that his hands are not "down there." Then he wheels himself around and touches stuff in the house, refrigerator etc. I am specific about rules etc but he is very stubborn. Any ideas?
It also helps to give your loved one some papaya to eat not only because it tastes good and it's nutritious but it also helps cleanse the colon, especially if they do not wash their hands regularly and they eat with their hands with or without you looking, they probably have bacteria/parasites in them so give them papaya to eat to help flush it out!
FIL is extraordinarily stubborn and refuses to listen to me.
He is quite intelligent & considers himself way "above everybody else."
He was an engineer who continues to try to micro-manage everything and everybody.
There is his way and the wrong way.
RE: toileting................I bring a basin with hot soapy water to him and insist he use it after a BM. He gets quite angry but will minimally comply. Myself, doc, nurses all tell him not to retrieve his own poop. But, he is "smarter than us all."
I give him miralax daily, senna (2x day) and he has 2 BM's every day. Kind of like toothpaste. It's such a mess. I have the wet wipes and make him use them but then he gets kind of vindictive and angry and I wouldn't put it past him to sabatoge me somehow. Now I sound paranoid. My Alzheimer's MIL tells on him sometimes....and she makes me laugh which is healthy at this point.
Buying him a mini frig is a great idea. I'll just have to find a place to stick it lol
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