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Or she has thrown her blanket on the floor again. I'm in and out of her room 20 times an hour. Her dementia is getting worse. I'm coping the best I can. I do her caregiving alone with an aide coming in the bathe her. It's frustrating and sad.
why dont you get one of those video baby monitor what will show you a picture of her on the handhld piece…i dont know if they work like an intercom but if shes ok call to her "i see you mom and your fine"
She may be reaching the stage of dementia where she either needs to add medications or have her current meds adjusted, so I would start with bringing these behaviors to the attention of her doctor too. Is she able to be set up for the day in a close by room where you can just be walking back and forth in her presence while doing other things in the home? Does she just need more stimulation, like TV or music? I do agree with Eyerishlass that you cannot be a 24/7 caregiver for a dementia person alone! What about finding a day care program that she goes to a few times a week for a few hours a day, to give her more stimulation and you a break?
We bought one of these with three cameras so that we can make sure Mom is OK and we can hear her, too. (link below) They don't take the place of being with her which we are but when things need to be done, we can make sure she's OK. Boredom might be the cause, too. We have a stereo (CD player) that we use to play music from her era. We;ve put hummingbird feeders up outside the window in the living room where she sits and the kitchen window so she can see it when she eats. We also hung up bird feeders (seeds) where she can see them. I've gotten Birds and Blooms, Reader's Digest and Reminisce magazine that we alternate and leave near her. I agree that you also need to find someone who can come in and give you a break. The Area Agency on Aging might be able to give you a list of caregivers or call the Alzheimer's Association and they can point you in the right direction for getting someone to come in to be with her while you get things done. You have to take care of you or you will DROP.
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That's all good advice. My mom watches tv, but no longer knows the difference between reality and pretend. She has forgotten how to even eat, I have to remind her to chew and swallow. She also had a stroke so she can't read magazines. A nice lady comes to read to her. She'll cry for no reason . I am always trying to joke but that's not working all the time either. I had to take her pictures off the wall because they were scaring her. She's bed ridden so she can't get around. She's 86 now. This is my life for the past 7years. Thank goodness I have my daughter to talk with everyday. She can only get home once a month. My caregiver support group only meets once a month. If my mom and I had been closer over the years this wouldn't be so hard. But I'm the only daughter. Three brothers out of state are no help at all. That's my vent for today.. I'm sure I'll have something to complain about again soon.
Would a fish tank help? I have a 20 gallon tank with some pretty goldfish and it seems to calm my sister. As long as there is no danger she will tip or break the tank, it's worth a try.
You will have to exercise patience, love and don't take her actions personally. Give yourself breaks and when you feel you want to scream, go outside and scream. You might try not responding to her if you have just checked on her and then she wants you to come back. Tell her you are busy and you will return and see how that goes. Everyone with dementia is different and presents with unique symptoms. When she is wanting you near, be there for her because you will not always have her around...
Have you looked into a board-and-care or assisted living residence for your Mom? She requires more attention than you are able to provide for her. Good Luck!
I keep word search books for my mom as well as watching television. The word search books keep her mind occupied consistently all through the day. She loves them.
My mother isn't a screamer but a finger snapper. She expected me to jump at her every whim. Once I got a handle on this caregiving for a person with Dementia, with the valuable advice from here, I realized she wasn't the main problem, it was the way I was responding. I started using tough love and making her do the things I knew she was perfectly capable of doing for herself. It really does help your mental health. I also noticed she was having trouble finding things on the tv (she loves her tennis, golf, Murder She Wrote etc.. I typed up a daily log for her of her favorite shows with time and channel. At first she was a bit confused, or pretended to be, until she realized the reward at the end of it. She is less bored now. I'm not having to constantly be summoned to find her something on the TV. It is a small thing but it gives me a little of my ME time back.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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They don't take the place of being with her which we are but when things need to be done, we can make sure she's OK.
Boredom might be the cause, too. We have a stereo (CD player) that we use to play music from her era. We;ve put hummingbird feeders up outside the window in the living room where she sits and the kitchen window so she can see it when she eats. We also hung up bird feeders (seeds) where she can see them. I've gotten Birds and Blooms, Reader's Digest and Reminisce magazine that we alternate and leave near her.
I agree that you also need to find someone who can come in and give you a break. The Area Agency on Aging might be able to give you a list of caregivers or call the Alzheimer's Association and they can point you in the right direction for getting someone to come in to be with her while you get things done.
You have to take care of you or you will DROP.
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