When we go to the pcp or pain management doctor and they ask her how much pain she is in, she always says not that much really. So I try to explain how bad it is and I see it constantly they say that if she says she is not in pain then she is fine. I know that she is minimizing the pain for the doctors. I just wonder does anyone elses mom or dad do this? Is that normal? She has dementia/alz.
Did your mum have a few breaks when she was younger? mum broke her arm 3 times in her life but she only gets a bit of pain when its cold in winter even then not too bad but that could change!
At least your sister is coming up and can relieve a bit of stress on you!
My grandfather was born in the 1920s and even though he had lung cancer, he would never tell the doctors that his pain was as bad as it was, because "in (his) day, people didn't complain so much." My mother and grandmother would always have to sit in the doctor's office with him and ask him to tell the truth, but he never would because it was so ingrained in him to downplay any discomfort.
Her son gave her two choices, to take the pill or call 911. She took the pill and a half hour later she was fine. Knowing this, and noting that both your mom and ours was always "fine" at the doctors office, I think you are being played like a fiddle. If you had a nanny cam, I bet you would see her moving around free of pain when you are not there.