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My Brother has signing power on Mom's bank account and he is making things difficult for any change.

How far does your brother live from your sister? Is it close enough that she can bring your mom over and tell him that Mom will be staying with him for several days so that he can provide the care that he thinks is so easy?
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Reply to MG8522
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Sister moves mom to brother’s home, let him figure it out from there. It shouldn’t take long for him to stop thinking about money
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Can you be more specific about how he is making things difficult for any change?

When you say "signing power" are you saying he is joint on her account? Or he is her PoA?

If your brother doesn't agree to make it financially possible to transition your Mom to a facility when you and your sister are burnt out, then you two need to step completely away and tell your brother he is now in charge of all her care. This will feel very difficult to do, but this is the leverage you have. Tell him if he doesn't start operating in her own best interests you will report her to APS.

Or, would he be more amenable to hiring in-home aids for her? Nonetheless, he'd have to make it possible to pay for them.
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Can you elaborate more with the things he is making difficult? Does he aide in the hands on care of your mother? Is he just ignoring your sister's difficulty in caring for her? If so, drop your mother off for a visit for a couple of weeks. Bet that will change his tune dramatically.

Sometimes taking a more direct approach such as this will facilitate your mother going a professional care setting. But sadly siblings do not always have the same views when it comes to caring and end of life directives for their parents.

Is your mother mentally capable to change signing power? Can your mother consult with an eldercare attorney to change any directives?

Sorry you and family have conflicting views on the stage of care your mother is needing. It really isn't fair to her or the main care giver.
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Who is POA here? If sister and brother disagree as to whether hands on caregiving should continue, the BROTHER does the caring. Ask him when he would like Mom to arrive. It's that simple.

And if sister has no POA here and is doing the caregiving that is and was very poor decision making. She should inform brother now of what shared living costs and caregiving payment she expects to continue this care, and give him resignation of care letter when he refuses. To be honest, if this caregiving sister cannot speak to the "in charge brother" then she should enlist and attorney to do so FOR HER.
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Then sister walks away from caring for mom.
She can go to Court and tell the Judge that the POA for Finance is hindering her ability to safely care for mom.
You tell the Judge that it is no longer safe for her to care for her at home. If there are the funds for caregivers tell the Judge that the alternative would be 24/7 caregivers to help care for mom.
There is no way a Judge would jeopardize the safety of a dependent.

If brother is not actually POA for finances (legally) then sister can find some reason to have mom transported to the hospital. (possible UTI, dehydration, anxiety) and at that point she tells the staff that she can no longer safely care for mom and that "her brother George" is the responsible party.
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You and your sister should pack up mom's things then leave them and mom on your brother's doorstep.

If he's not willing to have her moved into care, then he has to take her.
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