My partner is her 24/7 live in caregiver. He is with her pretty much every minute of every day. My MIL has mini meltdowns about being left on her own and feeling so lonely. My issue with this is that she is far from either of those things.... she just doesn’t remember. My partner, her son, can barely have five minutes to go to the toilet and she is looking for him because in her mind, he has left her on her own “all day”. How do we combat this?? It is driving him insane!
Your MIL sounds like she would definitely qualify for MC in a facility. If money is the issue, he can apply for Medicaid for her. If he doesn't think she will qualify, then he should invest in a 1 hr consult with and elder law attorney who has experience with Medicaid who can provide professional and accurate guidance and strategies to qualify. You both can't go on like this. It is noble of him to attempt to be her full-time caregiver, but ultimately it might cost him his health and his relationship with you. Hopefully he is not financing any of her care. This is also very ill-advised. I wish you both wisdom as you move forward to change this situation for the better.
Have you mentioned it to her doctor? Maybe there are meds that could help her.
He needs his life back, and to be with you.