My 96 year old mother broke her hip yesterday, now what?

I’ve gone through falls twice now in the last 2 1/2 years with two very different outcomes. My mother is now 92 so she is a bit younger than your mom, but is frail and has dementia which complicates everything.

Fall #1: Long story, but basically mom broke her arm and hip but the er drs. missed the broken hip until we were sent back to another er a week later. She was 90, fully ambulatory and had been able to fully care for herself as far as dressing, bathing and toileting. Her dementia was moderate. In the hospital she had a bad reaction to Tramadol & started hallucinating. I think there was delirium going on too. Once meds were adjusted she settled down so by the time she was assigned to rehab, things were better but not great. This time period was before covid so we could visit every day and monitor progress. She was "with it” enough to know she needed to put in the effort to save her remaining independence. By the time she finished rehab, facility & home, she was able to walk again with just a 3-prong cane. Her dementia had moved to a more advanced level, but other than me now needing to help her with showers, things were not too different.

Fall #2: Mother’s dementia was worse by this time, she was more frail and covid was going on in it’s earliest, most strict phase. After she fell in her bedroom, she was taken by ambulance and I was not allowed to see her face to face again until her rehab discharge about a month later. She had a successful surgery too before going into rehab. All my updates on her PT progress were over the phone. I did window visits with her but it was hard for her to understand that the person on the phone with her was also the person at the window. By the time she was released, I was shocked at how much weight she had lost. She wouldn’t eat much,even at home, for the first couple of weeks. The home health people would come and try to get her to walk and she would just cry and beg me to take her back to her chair. She couldn’t understand or remember the things they were trying to coach her on. She was sooo tired and weak and flat did not have the ability to put in the effort she needed to regain her strength. I think if she didn’t have the dementia she might have been able to rally again like she did after the first fall, but who knows. Physical therapy was finally stopped and we had her accessed for hospice. She’s been on hospice ever since. She can only walk a few steps now (with someone directly beside her, her white knuckles holding on for dear life to her full-size walker) and even then she barely makes it from her bed to her sitting chair (about 8 feet). Every other move she makes is from my husband or I pushing her in her the wheelchair. She can’t do any of the transfers on her own and offers little to no help to whoever is moving her. It takes two of us to get her on/off/and cleaned up from the toilet now. That was a giant change that took awhile to adjust to. Hospice handles her bathing. Hospice has been a true Godsend.
Bottom line, at your mom’s age, even if she doesn’t have dementia and is in reasonably good shape, the weeks of rehab ahead will probably be a difficult and challenging process. I would start mentally preparing for the possibility that she will come home needing a different level of care AND proving to be an even greater fall risk than ever. I would also suggest watching for behavior and mood changes that can come from new meds and delirium from all the change and stress. And as far as PT goes, keep in mind, that sometimes what they “can do” and “what they’re willing to do” are not the same thing. Watching my mom go through PT at home after the 2nd fall was a misery. It got to where all the pushing and pushing was just more than she could handle mentally or physically. One last thing I noted with both falls was that once mom got home again, she started eating better and just doing better overall. So improvement can continue, just keep expectations real. Good luck & God bless.

Watch & wait.
Have hope.
But also realistic expectations.

#hip in the very aged is a game-changer - for the whole family.

My dad fell and broke his hip in memory care at age 89. In his case is was a simple surgery, couple screws. He went from the hospital to a very good rehab center. His dementia was fairly advanced at this point but he was still friendly and cooperative for the most part and had been very mobile prior to the broken hip.

He did very well and after two weeks of rehab I was able to move him 600 miles to a nursing home near me. He regained his mobility and was a real handful for the staff who had to chase him all over the facility. Dad died peacefully in September of last year.

So sorry about the fall. Accidents happen quickly even you if you are right beside them.

Of course, it is upsetting to you. Speak with her doctor and if she isn’t able to go home, ask him to break the news to her.

Will keep you and your mom in my thoughts and prayers.

At 88 my stepmom fell and broke her left hip. She was showing me she could pick her recycle bucket up with her foot, lost her balance and fell before I could catch her. She was up and walking the day after surgery.
At 92, she fell and broke her right hip and arm. After surgery and 30 days in rehab, the doctors strongly recommended she move to assisted living as she refused to have 24 hr care in her independent living apartment. I found her a lovely assisted living facility however she never regained her mobility. I think she just gave up because she couldn't live independently anymore. She never wanted to be a bother, but she had the ability to get people to do what she wanted in her own quiet little way.


wanted in her quiet little way.

When a neighbor broke her hip the doctor thought that it was not anyone's fault - the reason she fell was because the hip itself broke, it was not the fall that caused it. So I don't think you should feel at fault here.

This was many years ago, but my grandmother broke one hip in her early 90s, had successful hip replacement, and continued to live on her own with increasing help from my mother (shopping, some cooking, laundry). Then, she broke her other hip when she was I think 96 or 97--again, successful surgery, but this time she started having to use a walker and could no longer be by herself but had home health aides. I think it helped her recovery both times that my grandmother was in excellent overall health--only meds she took were vitamins and a mild sleep aid, no dementia, no medical problems other than osteoporosis (which is why she broke both hips). Dr. who did the surgery said she had the cardiovascular system of someone 25 years younger! She lived to be 102.

Each patient is as unique as his or her own fingerprint. So time will tell how it goes. If our Mom came out of the anesthesia with no worsening of any mental deficits you are already WELL AHEAD in this game. Please don't feel bad yourself. I am 79. I recognize "to my bones", as a retired RN how much less certain my balance is, despite the fact I walk more than a mile daily, and that, if I DO go down, something will likely bust. It's a fact of life. I laugh about being on the bus and feeling like a tossed feather, despite the fact I weigh more than I ever did prior in my life. Fragility is a fact. Hope your Mom does just great in rehab. A lot depends upon determination. You already know the risk factors of age, and what "might" happen. Try not to "go there" and take this a day at a time. I surely do wish you so much luck.

Yes. My 91 year old mom broke her hip two months ago while she was fully ambulatory. As a small framed, 98 pound lady, she had corrective surgery and after a month of rehab has recovered quite well. Yesterday, she walked from kitchen to the bathroom. All good for us.

hello, my father broke his hip after a fall and was rehabilitated in a normal facility that I believe was inappropriate to his condition in terms of therapy, in America the typical therapy is to give the elderly person painkillers have them walk on a treadmill as long as they can stand the pain, and then put them in a wheelchair for the rest of the day. What happens is that is not enough movement, they can’t handle the pain, and a majority get pneumonia from The lack of activity and die from pneumonia, several weeks only after their fall. I instead highly suggest that your mom rehabilitates in warm salt water, where she will have no pain will be able to expand the range of motion, slowly, and does not need to take as many or any pain painkillers, I also suggest cold water instead of pain medication as therapy, and also to aid in increasing circulation to heal the break,
I wish you great luck, know that you did nothing wrong. And the ocean cures us all.