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Here is a link to an article on the subject with a few responses about the 'packing' situation you are facing.

https://www.helpforalzheimersfamilies.com/community-voices/your-questions-answered/why-mother-constantly-packs/

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Does this happen in the evening?   If so, you can use weather as an excuse...it's going to snow, rain heavily; thunderstorms are predicted, etc.    And you don't want to take the chance of driving in nasty weather b/c of crazy drivers, or if there should be an accident and you'd be concerned about him.

You're sick tonight; but you can talk about leaving tomorrow.

You need to check the oil, antifreeze, tire pressure, etc., and need to do that in the daylight.

You'd like to stop and buy him breakfast and again, can't do that until morning.

The plan is if he's sundowning, put off the decision making until tomorrow and he'll likely have forgotten about it.

If he's not, can you drive him around to scenic places to distract and relax him?   Or maybe go to a library, spend some time there, and return home.  Or go to a man cave shop; wandering around Lowe's or HD tends to be very distracting and sometimes soothing.
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Nothing looks familiar so he wants to go home to where it does. Unfortunately, that's usually going back in time, which you can't do, to a place that no longer exists. It's sad.

Mthr did a lot of waiting on the bus inside her memory care facility. She'd be up with her bag at 4:40 am, and the staff would tell her the bus was delayed. About 8, at shift change, someone new would tell her the bus broke down and it wouldn't be there today. They'd keep telling her that when she asked, and they'd take her back to her room and suggest she unpack, take a nap while she waited, or whatever, in her room that she did not realize was her room.

Just play along with his reality. It's not what we see that matters, it's how he feels about what he sees. Tell him to be patient, that his ride will be there someday, but not today. It's ok to tell this story since his broken brain is lying to him and you are trying to bring it back to complying with the rules of good behavior!
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