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If the mother's place is the OP's legal residence, she can't just demand that she pack her bags and get out. There are legal channels a person must go through to force someone out of their legal home. Actual eviction. These kinds of laws are in place for exactly this type of situation. The person who the home belongs to gets a bee in their bonnet over something, or doesn't get their own way then it's get out of my house. There's housing laws in this country.
If the mother's place is the OP's legal home, she will have to evict her.
If your mother's house is your legal residence, she can't just 'kick you out'. She has to serve you with formal eviction which would allow you (usually at least 30 days) to get yourself together and vacate her property.
When there's constant complaining and being upset, you should leave on your own. No one should live in that. I empathize with your situation, really I do. I lived it so I know. If you were sleeping on park bench and begging for money on a street corner, your life would be better and less stressful than it is now. Even if you and your husband have to go to a homeless shelter temporarily, it would be better than what you're in now.
Make a plan and actually leave your mother's place and don't look back. No doubt she will beg, plead, cry, and throw a tantrum insisting that you return the second she needs something. When she realizes her servant/slave is gone she'll pull out all the stops to get you back. Don't do it. Make a call to APS and tell them she's a vulnerable senior living alone and let them handle her.
I hope the dispute with your husband is not too serious that you split up, but if you do you'll deal with it. Good luck to you and I wish you the best.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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If it's her house, she gets to do what she did, whether she is impaired or not.
If you think she has cognitive impairment and are worried about her condition or self-care, then report her to APS.
As for housing, you can apply for section 8 with the county.
If the mother's place is the OP's legal residence, she can't just demand that she pack her bags and get out. There are legal channels a person must go through to force someone out of their legal home. Actual eviction. These kinds of laws are in place for exactly this type of situation. The person who the home belongs to gets a bee in their bonnet over something, or doesn't get their own way then it's get out of my house. There's housing laws in this country.
If the mother's place is the OP's legal home, she will have to evict her.
When there's constant complaining and being upset, you should leave on your own. No one should live in that. I empathize with your situation, really I do. I lived it so I know. If you were sleeping on park bench and begging for money on a street corner, your life would be better and less stressful than it is now. Even if you and your husband have to go to a homeless shelter temporarily, it would be better than what you're in now.
Make a plan and actually leave your mother's place and don't look back. No doubt she will beg, plead, cry, and throw a tantrum insisting that you return the second she needs something. When she realizes her servant/slave is gone she'll pull out all the stops to get you back. Don't do it. Make a call to APS and tell them she's a vulnerable senior living alone and let them handle her.
I hope the dispute with your husband is not too serious that you split up, but if you do you'll deal with it. Good luck to you and I wish you the best.