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He was a dead beat and we never spoke. He only paid child support when he felt like it. I live in new york and haven’t been with him since I was a minor. I recently got a call saying I was financially responsible for him. How can that be if he never cared for me? What is this Filial law?

NY is NOT a filial responsibility state.

Who told you this nonsense? It sounds very much like a scam of some sort.
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I have been on this forum daily since 2019. I've read plenty of panicked posts by adult children about whether filial laws would be applied to them. I've never once read a post where anyone, in any state, was forced into financially supporting their parents.
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AlvaDeer Dec 16, 2024
Well said. Yes, five years here and NOT EVER has a single person suggested they were asked to pay for their adult parent. Not EVER have filial laws been filed against a single person I have read on this forum and that's daily.
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I'm so sorry you're in this situation—it must be incredibly frustrating and painful to face this after everything you’ve been through. Let me break this down for you as I understand it: (I am not an attorney, so please seek advice from an attorney, specifically an Elder Law Attorney)

What is Filial Responsibility Law?
Filial responsibility laws exist in some states, including New York, and they require adult children to support their indigent parents if the parents cannot afford basic necessities like food, shelter, or medical care. However, enforcement of these laws varies widely.

Does This Apply in New York?
Yes, New York does have a filial responsibility law. However, these laws are rarely enforced, and there are often exceptions or defenses you can use. For instance:

******* If the parent abandoned or neglected the child (as you experienced), that could potentially be a defense. *******

If you’re not financially able to contribute to their care, you may also have grounds to challenge the claim.

How Did You Get Involved?
Typically, these situations arise when a nursing home, hospital, or government agency tries to recover costs of care for an indigent parent. They may reach out to the children to determine if they are legally obligated to help. Just getting a call doesn’t mean you are automatically liable.

What Should You Do Now?
Contact an attorney: You need someone familiar with New York filial responsibility laws to assess your specific situation. Many attorneys offer free consultations.
Document your history: Write down everything about your father’s abandonment, neglect, or lack of financial and emotional support. This may help you build a defense.

Don’t ignore it: While these laws are rarely enforced, ignoring any notices could make things worse. Acting now will give you the best chance to resolve this without undue stress.

Resources to Help You:
If you can’t afford an attorney, look into legal aid services in New York.
You can also consult with the state’s social services department to understand what’s being asked of you and explore if Medicaid or other programs can assist with his care.

I hope this helps give you some clarity and direction. No one should feel blindsided like this, especially when there's such a difficult history involved.
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AlvaDeer Dec 15, 2024
They DO NOT NEED AN ATTORNEY for this nonsense.
Nothing here is going to get worse.
You are giving VERY BAD ADVICE here and it is likely to scare this OP for absolutely NO REASON whatsoever.
New York State got rid of the LAST of it's Filial Laws in 1966, many decades ago.

Moreover, Filial laws, even when and where they exist are no enforced except in very very rare instances when someone has quite a lot of wealth under their belts.

We see scammers coming here all the time with this Filial Responsibility NONSENSE. Please stop.
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I think o my 16 states have Filial laws generally they are not enforced but they are still laws on the books so they can still be enforced.

A big one is PA I know PA nursing homes use them to get judgments on families. PA is not the norm though.
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Geaton777 Dec 15, 2024
Yes, I just read that PA is the most aggressive in applying their filial law.
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In reading some of the responses, I may not give anyone calling any info. I would first ask their name and what Department they are calling from and ask for a number to contact them at. Then I would look up the County offices where your Dad lives and verify that the caller is indeed a county employee. If a Social Worker from a hospital, NH or Rehab, ignore them and block. They have no power. They can call APS, you just tell them as an abused child, you will not care for the abuser.
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Block the number that the phone call came from and don't give it another thought. Someone is trying to push their own responsibility off onto you. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
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No You are Not responsible for him .
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Please give us more information about this call. Did the person identify themselves? Where is father now? What state? It likely is a friend of father that is trying to scare you to give them money, I'd be very surprised if it were an actual social worker or lawyer.
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It would be interesting to know who is it that called you: your dead-beat Dad? A social worker? Another family member? A roommate of his? A current wife? A facility?

Regardless: No, you are not responsible. Filial laws are archaic and it seems they are not applied even if they are still on the books.

Block whoever called you and go to bed with a clear conscience.
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If your Dad called, ignore him and block him. If a Social Worker they are just trying to get someone to take over the responsibility. As an abandoned child you owe your Dad nothing. Tell the SW that and that you will not be supporting Dad. The State can take over his care. Once you say that hang the phone up and block the caller.
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Some states had 'blue' laws on the books where adult children had to financially assist needy parents. They weren't enforced though. Filial laws for the most part were like town ordinances in the colonial times of old like no whistling on a Sunday.

You're in New York and Lealonnie is right in the comments. NY doesn't even have filial laws so you're good. You don't have to do anything.
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New York does not have filial responsibility laws, which require children to financially support their aging or ill parents. New York repealed its filial support law in 1966 to allow the state to receive Medicare benefits. 
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Scam, hang up, you are not responsible for him in any way.
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BurntCaregiver Dec 14, 2024
Amen, to that.
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That is a scam call.
You are not responsible for your father, either his care or his debts.
Feel free to continue to ignore the man and any calls about him

Filial laws are not enforced.
Do your research online to reassure yourself of this fact.

We get a lot of conspiracy things posted on AC all the time.
The two most common?
1. Hospice wants to kill you
2. Filial laws are a thing and will be enforced.

Neither is true. Hang up on this caller.
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You aren’t financially responsible for him.
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