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If you don't start taking care of yourself, and getting some outside help in, you will be the one needing to be cared for. You sound like you're at your breaking point, and regardless of the pandemic, you're either going to have hire some outside help, or place your husband in a facility. All agencies are going to great lengths to keep their workers and their clients as safe as possible, so you don't have to be afraid. Living in fear does no one any good, and it only puts you and your husband at great risk for not receiving the help you so desperately need.
So I guess I would ask you, would you rather risk an agency coming in to help you, or would you rather place your husband in a facility, where for right now you could only visit him through the window?
Please take care of yourself, and do whatever's best for you and your husband. God bless you.
Dear Billiekay, I’m a bit loathe to write this, but take it as only one view on a difficult situation, not as a judgement on you. We quite frequently have on the site posts from a woman who has married much older man, then finds that she has become a carer at an age when she and her husband both expected to be enjoying an active retirement together. You can decide that becoming a carer for a decade or so is the price you pay for marrying an older man than you, well established and respected. Or you can put your own life first, and find another option for your husband that works as well as possible. Neither option is what you would ever have wanted, and not what you want now. But it happens, over and over again. Just be aware that either option can work for both of you, depending on what you both want and can cope with. Commiserations, Margaret
Billiekay, just to give some perspective on covid: this past May my MIL in a LTC in a MN facility got covid and was extremely sick for 4 weeks, then recovered completely. She's doing great, just visited her tonight. I have a 96-yr old aunt with advanced dementia in MC in Pennsylvania. Tested positive for covid 2 weeks ago. Tested negative yesterday - no residual problems. I'm not saying covid is anything to trifle with, but it's not the death sentence many in our govt and media are making it out to be. If your husband doesn't have any underlying conditions such as COPD/breathing disorders, immuno compromise, high BP, obesity, diabetes, etc. I would consider outside help if I were in your position. I wish you all the best as you work through your decisions.
In the case of emergencies, you do what you have to do, pandemic or no pandemic. Period. My DH & I have been in & out of hospitals for the past 2+ months, with him having 2 serious surgeries and spending 2 weeks in the hospital on 2 separate occasions. I visited him, took him to doctors, clinics, for tests, had procedures myself, etc. etc. If we don't do what we have to do NOW, we will pay for it LATER. I'm going for yet another procedure this coming Friday because I have to. And that's that. I will wear my mask, wash my hands, and stay as safe as possible.
I wonder what the statistics will be for deaths due to people so frightened of getting The Virus that they neglected to take care of themselves for the year or two or three that the pandemic will wind up going on? A pandemic with a 99%+ survival rate to boot. Not to make light of it, or to say that some people don't get very ill from it, but TO say that if you don't do something to take care of YOURSELF now, The Virus will wind up killing you, whether you contract it or not.
Hire help right away, or place your husband in a residential care community where he can get help 24/7.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
So I guess I would ask you, would you rather risk an agency coming in to help you, or would you rather place your husband in a facility, where for right now you could only visit him through the window?
Please take care of yourself, and do whatever's best for you and your husband. God bless you.
I wonder what the statistics will be for deaths due to people so frightened of getting The Virus that they neglected to take care of themselves for the year or two or three that the pandemic will wind up going on? A pandemic with a 99%+ survival rate to boot. Not to make light of it, or to say that some people don't get very ill from it, but TO say that if you don't do something to take care of YOURSELF now, The Virus will wind up killing you, whether you contract it or not.
Hire help right away, or place your husband in a residential care community where he can get help 24/7.
Best of luck