My mom refuses to go to any type of home. I have POA for her. Can I force her to go into a home against her wishes?
She will be very unhappy in a facility. She is not social and has outburst of anger and terrible language.
How do you move a person when they refuse to go?
There are in fact smaller in home nursing homes, run with often between 6 and 10 patients, sometimes with roommates and some times without. It is hard to evaluate any facility in Covid-19 times. But they will have a way.
The way I learned about the inhome places in a certain city was because I had contact with a man acting as a Financial Fiduciary. He was, by court order, in charge of several patients in my brother's facility. Acted as their guardian, their POA, their Health Care advocate. This was by appointment of the court mostly because of dysfunctional families. He was a marvel at knowing the availabiltiy of EVERYTHING. If you are in a decent sized area check out Fiduciaries with your search engine or ask MD or a Social Worker if they can recommend one. Make it clear you are buying an hour of his or her time for advice. Then take questions and specifically get a list of trusted providers in the area. Average cost for the fiduciary I know for an hour of time is 90.00 to give you an idea of So. California price. Better than 350.00 for Lawyer. Social Workers may know of places. And then just google care homes in your area. Good luck.
Any other advice you can offer is appreciated.
Once in effect, it doesn't matter what Mom wants its what she (and you) needs. I would not even discuss it with her. Find a nice AL or if she can't afford that, apply for Medicaid but that means LTC. When I placed Mom, we told her she was going to a nice apartment the day we moved her.
with COVID we are not allowed to visit.
did your mom adjust to her new home?