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She’ll likely act the exact same way as any other visit. Don’t go and ruin your holiday if there is usually drama. Your own enjoyment of the holiday is more important. It’s just another Thursday for a demented person.
Tell us more. Are you not typically visiting your mom? Do you live many miles from your mother? Does your mother typically become (and stay) somewhat agitated when she has visits from you?
I don't really think that any Holiday nonsense figures in your question. Your question, when dementia is involved is about agitation being the outcome of your visits I think? And that is a larger question. Usually something that happens when the person who has dementia sees a visitor he/she believes will SAVE or RESCUE. In other words, take her home. This is usually a passing outcome of visits where the loved one has expectations still of escaping back home.
If so, does the facility have any events on Thanksgiving day? My MIL's place has a church service in the morning and then the Thanksgiving meal after that. We go over there to be with her during the meal, take a group photo, and then decorate her room for Christmas.
If you go in the morning, your Mom may not "Sundown" as much. Afternoons will be worse. If you can accompany her to a facility activity and then leave while she's in the activity there will be less chance for her to wind up (and call an aid over to distract her while you say your brief goodbye).
Is your Mom on any meds for depression or anxiety? If not, maybe it's time this happens.
I hope your holiday with her is as good as it can be.
If she's in LTC and you already know she will get difficult, don't visit her on Thanksgiving or the actual day of any holiday. You can visit her the day after or on the weekend. Don't ruin your own holiday by going to her facility if she's going to get agitated and start up with the going home. Also, remember that because it's a holiday there is going to be even less staff working than normally. Don't make their jobs harder by going there on the actual holiday so your mother gets all worked up.
You get to leave after a brief visit. The limited staff will have to deal with the agitation and difficult behavior. Don't do that to them. Don't do it to your mother either. Most LTC facilities have some kind of holiday celebration that they don't do on an actual holiday. This is because the place is short-staffed on holidays. So go to the celebration the facility is having for Thanksgiving with your mother. Then enjoy your holiday on the actual Thanksgiving and stay away from the place that day. Same applies for Christmas too.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Are you not typically visiting your mom?
Do you live many miles from your mother?
Does your mother typically become (and stay) somewhat agitated when she has visits from you?
I don't really think that any Holiday nonsense figures in your question.
Your question, when dementia is involved is about agitation being the outcome of your visits I think?
And that is a larger question. Usually something that happens when the person who has dementia sees a visitor he/she believes will SAVE or RESCUE. In other words, take her home. This is usually a passing outcome of visits where the loved one has expectations still of escaping back home.
If so, does the facility have any events on Thanksgiving day? My MIL's place has a church service in the morning and then the Thanksgiving meal after that. We go over there to be with her during the meal, take a group photo, and then decorate her room for Christmas.
If you go in the morning, your Mom may not "Sundown" as much. Afternoons will be worse. If you can accompany her to a facility activity and then leave while she's in the activity there will be less chance for her to wind up (and call an aid over to distract her while you say your brief goodbye).
Is your Mom on any meds for depression or anxiety? If not, maybe it's time this happens.
I hope your holiday with her is as good as it can be.
You get to leave after a brief visit. The limited staff will have to deal with the agitation and difficult behavior. Don't do that to them. Don't do it to your mother either. Most LTC facilities have some kind of holiday celebration that they don't do on an actual holiday. This is because the place is short-staffed on holidays. So go to the celebration the facility is having for Thanksgiving with your mother. Then enjoy your holiday on the actual Thanksgiving and stay away from the place that day. Same applies for Christmas too.