My mother refuses to think seriously about putting him in a nursing facility. He has fallen several times and I have to go over to help him up. He cannot walk and has trouble standing for more than a few minutes. He is a tall man, much taller than me, and is difficult to move, though at this point he weighs less than I do. The tirades he goes on are very upsetting. I hate to hear him yell and curse at my mother since she does so much for him.
If it’s something new then he should be checked for a UTI. His doctor should be called to see if it’s possibly a reaction to meds. Has he been placed on any new meds? Perhaps it’s time for a cognitive evaluation.
If you want to help your mom, arrange to stay with your dad and give your mom some free time.