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My older sister called APS on me. She told them I beat up my parents and my son, and that I take control of my parents financially. Two weeks ago my mom went to ER for Altered Mental Status. My sister trying to be sneaky try to get poa over my mom and dad with the help of her lawyer friend. I was given permission by my dad to visit my mom at hospital since only one person was allowed during the entire stay for my mom because of Covid. My sister found out and thought I told the hospital to ban her, so she called APS on me, and my husband. I didn’t make the choice to be the designated visitor, my dad did. She was saying horrible things that we weren’t doing. My sister says she’s going to use her judge friends and lawyer friends to put me in prison. My two sisters and I split care for my mom, but my oldest sister who called never helped my mom, she has diabetes, blind and bed bound. My oldest sister never paid bills the 6 months she lived with us, my parents only took her in because her boyfriend beat her up. She has caused nothing but trouble. She’s 50, why she’s not on her own, now I know. Last year my parents gave their house to my son. They found out and got extremely jealous. They have been begging my mom to put them on the deed but my parents refuse because they are mean to them. My parents recently kicked them out and they left leaving me responsibility of both parents alone. But they cause so much trouble, like sneakily trying to get financial poa telling my dad it’s medical with the help of a lawyer. And over my mom while she was in ICU. When my dad found out it was financial she was so scared, I had to find him an attorney to fix it. My sisters told me my mom was never coming home and they were taking control of the house. But my dad asked my husband to help kick them out, he felt betrayed. Now there’s a case against me and my husband for lots of ugly things including beating my son. I never disrespect my parents, or put fear into them, or hit them or take control of their finances. It’s a real mess, I have to care for my mom who just wants to live the rest of her life in peace at home not in a nursing home. I was going back to school for nursing, but have to put on hold to care for my mom and dad, my dad is a lot more independent but mom is like a newborn. I’m trying my best and now I have this lies told about me, last time she was here the case worker was looking at me like she wanted to make a big deal, I have been honest with her, but who knows what my sister and her attorney told them, she mostly question my husband about the property who has no involvement when my parents gave the house to my son. This is the worst, any advice thank you.

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I'd assume APS will speak to your parents and son. They'll tell them it's untrue, and that should be that. However, you do need to get your folks to put their affairs in order, so evil sister can't pull this on them. Ideally, they need a trust if they have any assets, but at the very least, they need their bank accounts set up so your sister can't get in there, POA for the person they do want (not your sister), and medical POA, too.

Get an elder law/trust and estate attorney involved, and if your parents are competent, they need to meet with the attorney with no coercion from you or your sister. If they aren't, you may have to go for guardianship.
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notgoodenough Feb 2021
After you get an attorney, only contact said sister through that attorney. In writing.
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I agree with the advice below about letting APS direct this and welcoming them, and by getting an elder law attorney.
Much that you have said here is disturbing on many levels, and one of the levels is that you mention that your elderly parents GAVE THEIR HOUSE to your son. Ummmm. Not a good thing, I think.
You need expert help in combing out this mess now. Too many actors on this stage for any Forum to direct the play.
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Families are great, until they aren't.

Sounds like general nastiness and you keep yourself above the fray and let an attorney handle it. Do NOT contact sister and do NOT make any promises, comments, ANYTHING to her.

The truth will rise to the surface.

One troubling thing that may very likely come back to 'haunt' you is the gift of the home to your son.

Be absolutely honest with your attorney. They will ferret out the truth anyhow, so don't waste time trying to hide anything (not inferring you are going to)--just help them with as much info as you can. That will save time and money.

Good Luck.
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You wrote:

"My sister says she’s going to use her judge friends and lawyer friends to put me in prison. "

Suggest to your sister that attempts to influence a judge and/or attorneys into specific action could cause her to be charged with some type of inappropriate influence; I can't think of the specific title for that kind of crime right now.   If she offers anything to effect that influence, it would probably be bribery, or attempted bribery.
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POAs should be in place. Dad should have one on Mom, maybe with you secondary. You should have one on Dad. Hopefully Mom can assign Dad. Did Dad actually sign the deed of the house over to his grandson. If not, he needs to. Leaving it in a Will can be contested. Dad also needs to make sure if he turns the deed over now that its in writing that he can live there until his death.

This question sounds so familiar. Did u post before under a different name?
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