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Another option might be to introduce your friend as someone who really needs some peace and quiet to use a desk (that’s if you have one). She could then spend time at your place, without it involving your spouse. Decide if it’s company you want, or just someone there in case of emergency.
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Most of us are not comfortable with someone coming into our home whom we perceive to be a stronger.

One way is to introduce someone as your friend and have them spend time with the two of you. Have them do chores with you, cook a meal, visit, watch a program on tv. Then your spouse, depending on his level of disease, will be more comfortable with your helper and you will also have had an opportunity to watch them interact and the helper will have been able to observe the interaction between you and your spouse. A camera is helpful to allow you to determine how he is doing and what you might do to further facilitate their ease in dealing with one another. Perhaps they will work on a puzzle or fold dish towels or walk the dog, rake leaves or shovel snow, not necessarily to complete a job but to have some pleasant exercise.
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