My grandmother is 80 and has mild or greater dementia. I provide 24/7 care for her and have to live in the middle of nowhere in doing so. I ask for little to nothing for all my efforts and she’s always wanting to give me more but I refuse. My family has had a problem for a while, her son my uncle asks anywhere from 600-1200 dollars from her every single month and he is 58 years old, and he only visits one time a year and doesn’t do anything while he is here. He sends unknown amounts of money to his “girlfriend” whom he’s never met in Russia and very large amounts of money to church ties each month as well. It’s been very stressful for me and my father having to try and manage this because my grandmother's husband died when I was young and she has a limited source of money now. My uncle is not just the problem. My grandmother is very adamant about providing this money to him WHENEVER he needs it. She cannot keep giving him money even though she has said for as long as he needs it she won’t stop giving it to him. He is 58 years old and cannot seem to make enough money for rent and will not stop asking her for money. Even after all the heartache he’s caused. I’m just trying to figure out if there is some legal action that my father, her other son can take to be able to stop giving him this money every month and my grandmother has no choice but to not give it to him. This is a very serious problem in my family and has been for some time now. If anybody has any advice or information please let me know, this is very important and I am trying to keep my grandmother from losing all her money.
If grandma is competent there is little you can do other than explain the impact on her, financially. She would never be able to get the care she needs if she has given away all of her assets.
CS, you are only 20. How did you get selected for this job that could span many years. You are at an age that you need to build your life and career, not caregiving. It will take everything out of you.