GardenArtist Asked April 2018
New Orleans Band - any suggestions for an authentic New Orleans funeral?
Follow
Share
My father wants a New Orleans style band (or other group that knows that kind of music style) to play When the Saints go Marching in at his funeral. Funeral director and I aren't sure where to find a band up here in Michigan that's familiar with the style of the NO funerals. This might be needed in a few days. Any suggestions? Anyone done this before? Iggy, do you know of any bands in Michigan that could be available, possibly in a few days?
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
20 Answers
This question has been closed for answers. Ask a New Question.
Popular Questions
Related Questions
- Is there a free grave in California for an elderly on general assistance?
- Can I transport a body in the back of a pickup truck to a cemetery in GA?
- Both parents passed with a week of each other and both were on Medicaid - can we sell their house to pay ourselves back for funeral expenses?
- Not going to the funeral, is it disrespectful to not attend?
Ask a Question
GardenArtist, sorry to hear about Dad's decline. --- thinking of you.
It would be a New Orleans style “brass band” that does the second lines.
If I had to hire one in another area, I’d contact either:
- the band director of any predominantly African American high school as they will either have a group out of the school or know of one. Plus they have uniforms, school T shirts so that’s a terrific visual
- ditto for African American clientele funeral homes
You want me to priority mail you the “Our NOLA” CD? All the classics are on it. Has Eddie Bo’s “Saints”, Davell Crawford’s “Gather By The River” a great funeral dirge, Dirty Dozen Brass Bands “Feet” which is what usually follows “Saints” and it’s a real get down strut & stomp of a song.
Also have Louis Prima classics 1935-1935 great tunes. It’s preKeely
PM me if you want me to ship up, iggie
Sorry you are dealing with dad's decline
My family loves Dixieland and I was able to find a few bands online by doing an Internet search so I'm hoping you can find some in your area
Traditional songs might include
A closer walk with thee played when leaving the church
With when the saints played after the graveside prayers
Let us know how things go
Googling "Celebration of Life" there appears to be special invitations, some are free, some can be downloaded.
Saying goodbye to such a fine man, very soon.....our thoughts are with you and your Dad.
I'm going to flesh out the options you suggest later today but just wanted to thank each and every one of you for taking the time to respond, as well as to offer kind thoughts on my father's situation, which has changed drastically. So, just a quick comment on that.
On Monday the DON and I both thought he was in the final stages of life. I thought maybe a few days; we discussed morphine to ease the very physical and mental challenges he was facing. I honestly didn't think he'd still be alive by today.
The facility in-house doctor thoroughly examined him late Monday evening and doesn't feelDad's that close to end of life or that morphine is appropriate now. AND, and a big AND, the following day brought a drastic change, thanks to some very special MOW volunteers who have been extraordinarily supportive through this last journey.
Yesterday he ate more than he's eaten in a few weeks. He was even able to hold a spoon long enough to take a spoonful of food by himself. He choked and coughed less. I was amazed, and on reflection,I'm sure it was the human interaction. This morning I mulled over your suggestions and decided on a somewhat different approach, integrating the here and now and what's to come.
And, of course, this is long, so I apologize in advance, but I wanted to let each of you know how helpful you've been.
To initially address your suggestions:
1. GeeWhiz, I never thought of marching bands, and there are plenty in this area. There's also a Community Band which offers free concerts. I'm going to start contacting them.
GigSalad is amazing! I'll definitely have to spend some time there and reaching out to their resources.
I also remember that I was briefly in a marching band in high school, as was one of my relatives. That's another source.
2. Iggy, I like the military metaphor! I'm now planning to enlarge one of the B-29 photos with Dad and his fellow crew members for the Military aspect of display - I plan to have memory boards for each aspect of his life (childhood, adulthood/exploration of life/CCC/National Guard), military service, marriage, family and of course his woodworking accomplishments.
I imagine the funeral home will make a video as well, but a big photo of the Super Fortress will be SO impressive! I LOVE those fortresses anyway!
That also brought to mind those fantastic marching bands. I watched a military tattoo a few weeks ago and was literally so high I was soaring - I think I'll contact the local base to see if any of the services stationed there have a band.
The idea of contacting African American resources is a great one. In fact, there were some AA bands that played on the 4th of July parade in my city. I'll contact the city offices to get more information. And my AA quilting friends might have some good suggestions; both are former nurses and are very resourceful.
You are soooo kind to offer to send me the CD, and that's given me another idea, coupled with some of the plans for the funeral. So far there will be family coming from the West, SE and Midwest states. No embalming means a fairly quick funeral. But the rush is off a bit now, as noted above, as the physician doesn't think the end is that close.
I'll PM you - if I can get the details on the CD, I might be able to find it locally, or have Barnes and Noble order it. Otherwise, if you send it, I'll dupe it and return it. I'll start calling locally to see if it's available and let you know as soon as I find out.
And thanks for that wonderful offer!
4. MsMadge, also very helpful suggestions. I'm even wondering if I could find a recording online; some of the music sites have samples for downloading.
I don't even remember if Dad's church plays departure music as people are leaving the church, but that's a really good suggestion for a tune that signals a change from the discussion and honor of the person, to the next step, finalized by a joyous celebration in music of my father's life.
More research, but I enjoy planning and appreciate that suggestion of seguing from one state to another.
I'm adding your suggestions to my Internet search list.
4. Send, I had wanted a celebration rather than a dying focus, but hadn't even thought of some of the suggestions I found on the website you cited. I was also considering something to do now, perhaps a stage one celebration capped by the final plans.
Your suggestion complimented what I saw yesterday when he rallied - the power of presence of supporters, family and friends. We've had outstanding support at the SNF where he's now getting palliative care, so now I'm seguing into a small celebration there, with a different level at the funeral.
There are a lot of possibilities for this; this is another issue to explore while I'm at the SNF this morning.
In fact, my mind is actually begun accelerating into thoughts so quickly forming that I'm having trouble writing things down as I also type this response.
I'm now thinking of perhaps a small daily celebration, with friends or visitors, as a support and inspirational mechanism, not just visiting, but actually focusing on some aspect of their interaction with Dad.
Maybe the daily celebrations can help him through these rough times, knowing that he can share his life accomplishments now rather than when he's gone.
I am actually getting emotional thinking of all the thoughtful and helpful suggestions you've offered. Although the sadness is still lurking, I'm excited to think of implementing something now to not only help him through the day but also to bring together people who've been a part of his life, but of prime importance is to help Dad and I dispel our melancholy and focus more on celebration.
Now, anyone near me willing to help me get together all the photos from his life. I'll promise donuts, bagels...as a treat Just kidding - this will be a big task! !
Thanks so very much for helping me view the entire issue of the potential loss of my father in a way that allows me to celebrate him more while he's here. (I'm actually getting emotional and can't type any more because of the tears in my eyes.)
More later as I begin to implement The Celebration Now and flesh out plans for The Final Celebration.
The Prima CD is “Louis Prima and his New Orleans Gang” 1934-1935.
Copyright 1999 - Classics Records, Stemra #1048. It’s falloff from a set. If I had to guess it’s likely a European reissue as Prima appreciation is more not in the USA. Listened to it yesterday, beyond awesome.
Let me know as snail mail takes time!
Thinking of you both in this part of life's journey.
When we went to New Orleans, we saw the Preservation Hall Jazz Band. Their music is typical N'awlins style and they played many of the tunes others have mentioned. Maybe a Google search would bring up their music.
How wonderful to "celebrate" life that has has gone on to God.
Take care and be sure to rest.
Barb, Daughter, Sue, and Windy, thanks so much for your concern and support. It really means a lot to me to know that I'm not on this path alone.
Sue, your post reminded me of when my sister lived in NO, I visited, and we went to the Preservation Hall, sat on the floor and fell in love with the music. What an experience! I had completely forgotten about the Hall.
I've just called Preservation Hall and am e-mailing one of the coordinators, although I doubt that their schedule would allow for a one time stop in Michigan. But....guess what? They have samples of their music on their website and one is of the Saints! Now, if only I can figure out what I did with the speakers for the computer.....
Back in a little bit, and thanks so much to everyone!
Support and love for your celebration plans for your Dad.
Bill and Gloria Gaither
When the Saints Go Marching In
Lyrics
1 I’m just a weary pilgrim,
Plodding thru this world of sin;
Getting ready for that city
When the saints go marching in.
Refrain:
When the saints go marching in,
When the saints go marching in;
Lord I want to be in that number
When the saints go marching in.
2 My father loved the Savior,
What a soldier he had been!
But his steps will be more steady
When the saints go marching in. [Refrain]
3 And mother, may God bless her,
I can see her now, as then;
With a robe of white around her
When the saints go marching in. [Refrain]
4 Up there I'll see the Savior
Who redeemed my soul from sin,
With extended hands He'll greet me
When the saints go marching in. [Refrain]
Source: Singing Revival #23
MsMadge, the first song on the CD is A Closer Walk with Thee - your suggestion was soooo perfect. It has the right blend of upbeat, beautifully played music, and a religious theme but not maudlin like some of the organ music that's so depressing.
That was a great suggestion!
Send, I appreciate your suggestions; I'll comment on them later as I'm in a hurry to go to the SNF right now.
I had forgotten how sweet Jazz played well can be. I'm beginning to think about a trip to NOLA, to sit on the floor at the Preservation Hall and just mellow out to the music.
Iggy, is Maison Blanche still a fixture - they had the best mints I've ever had. Keep your schedule open; I might be visiting you!
Thanks again to all.
GA
I'll be looking for that CD
A trip to New Orleans sounds like a lot of fun
Is court of two sisters still serving soft shell crab?
As I was reading through Gardens post I was remembering good times in NO. I was thinking about the Court of Two Sisters and the jazz brunch from the 70’s!!
Good memories.
Garden
I have a dear friend who is on hospice now from Alzheimer’s. In the early 80s she and another friend and I all went to NO for a weekend. I have a picture of her up in the “saints” line marching through the hall. She was in her 60s. Met a man from Hawaii who was vacationing there. She had a relationship with him for a couple of years commuting to Hawaii.
Recently while visiting with our dying friends son, our friend and I started talking about how much fun that trip was. Son, now in his 60s was amazed at all he didn’t know about his mother. I plan to share your idea with him for his mother’s celebration.
I remember from that trip visiting the Nahan art gallery where the story around a painting entitled “No More Sparks Under the Horses Hooves” became a reoccurring theme in our friendship.
Good music, wonderful food and art.
A memorable city to visit and remember. Much to draw from to celebrate your fathers life. He chose well.
You are a sweet daughter to make it happen. We are all with you. Hugs
So sorry to just now hear of your Father passing.
Sorry for your loss of your father, a fine man.
Carry on with that celebration you have planned, as you mourn his absence.
We are here for you.
I've been listening to various versions of a closer walk with thee before bedtime this week
I came across a Scandinavian band from the 1970s donned in Viking outfits which gave me a laugh and one of my favorites was a Dutch group with a female drummer. Also, there's a rather long version on YouTube by a Japanese group where a young cornet player from New Orleans joined their session - turns out she is from a long line of jazz musicians
Thinking of you