My husband was diagnosed with bladder cancer in January 2015. Is started as stage 2 and went to stage 4 in just about 1month. He is taking chemo now, the doctors are saying there is no hope or possible cure. I'm at my wits end, he tries to not let me see how scared he is, what can I expect or do?
Bringing Hospice in may give you both some support. Are you doing that?
My good friend's husband has stage 4 cancer. He has completed his last round of chemo, which was intended to be palliative, not a cure. They've moved their bedroom down into the front parlor (it is a very old house) so he doesn't have to waste energy on the stairs. They got a great comfortable recliner for the living room where he watches tv. On good days he may go to a home maintenance store (his favorite hang out) or even out to lunch. Most days he is home bound with little energy.
They seem to be taking one day at a time, one hour at a time sometimes.
I know that they got their legal ducks in a row, updated wills, etc. early on. It made him feel that he was taking care of responsibilities. Perhaps other people would want to avoid that but it seemed good for him.
I am so sorry your are facing this. I hope others who have more personal experience with it will post.
Hugs to you all.