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It depends on the kind of dementia and where they are in its progression. Many people immediately forget their behavior, which is probably merciful for them, if not for the caregiver. Others who are in and out of being lucid can remember and are horrified of their behavior when they are "out of it."
I really don't know which is more "common." If you get an apology, accept it graciously. If the person is quite distressed about the incident, and accepts that they have dementia, then help them feel better: "Thank you for that apology. I know that you would never behave like that when you are in control. For a while there the disease was in control. I'm sorry we both went through that, but that is just how it is when the disease goes through a rough spot. Let's hope this afternoon is much better! Would you like to have a cup of hot chocolate with me and listen to some music?"
My sister always said, when we were talking about my husband with a very in-and-out-and-in-again type of dementia (Lewy Body) that if she ever goes ga-ga she hopes she just arrives there and doesn't have to be aware of the journey. Me too. But this is not something we get to pick.
Some are aware enough and have enough short-term memory to want to apologize. Some are aware but are too angry about having this cursed disease to apologize for what they can't help. Some have no awareness of when their behavior is unacceptable. We just have to do the best we can with our loved ones' situations.
I was thinking the same thing, glad. I have become so jaded that I just accept the apology verbally, knowing that it won't be long until it happens again. People who emotionally abuse their caregivers have a deep-seated need to do it. Perhaps it is fear or resentment. I don't know what it is.
In the early stages, yes, but as it progresses they have no social filters anymore. Short term memory gradually disappears and they do not even remember what they did five minutes ago.
JB, If you can think of it as fear, it might be easier to disregard. I think that's the "high road," which we can't always take. The small amount of abuse I get is not personal or intended to wound me, and I am still struggling to let it go.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I really don't know which is more "common." If you get an apology, accept it graciously. If the person is quite distressed about the incident, and accepts that they have dementia, then help them feel better: "Thank you for that apology. I know that you would never behave like that when you are in control. For a while there the disease was in control. I'm sorry we both went through that, but that is just how it is when the disease goes through a rough spot. Let's hope this afternoon is much better! Would you like to have a cup of hot chocolate with me and listen to some music?"
My sister always said, when we were talking about my husband with a very in-and-out-and-in-again type of dementia (Lewy Body) that if she ever goes ga-ga she hopes she just arrives there and doesn't have to be aware of the journey. Me too. But this is not something we get to pick.
Some are aware enough and have enough short-term memory to want to apologize. Some are aware but are too angry about having this cursed disease to apologize for what they can't help. Some have no awareness of when their behavior is unacceptable. We just have to do the best we can with our loved ones' situations.
When I remember that they will soon forget it helps me get through the periiods of high anxiety and agitation.