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Trill, if the boyfriend is an "ex" there is no need for you to still continue to be in his life. Let his family know that you can no longer take care of him due to physical abuse.
Go no contact. Call the police if he won't leave you alone. Don't open the door for him. Get a protective order. Do what it takes. If he is put in prison, he will be safe and sound.
Dementia is a tragic disease for all concerned. And it is a very complex disease to deal with. It cannot be cured but it can be treated. Possibly this man could be less belligerent with appropriate treatment. Appropriate treatment requires professional medical personnel, with training and experience, and even they don't always get it right. This is not a role for a sweetheart or loved one.
I agree that you may have to sever all ties. Your number one priority must be your own safety. Do what you have to do to esdure that. Change the lock on your door if he has a key.
If you still care about the man he used to be, and you want to play good Samaritan to a very sick person, you might also try getting him some help. I say "try" because you really have no legal leverage and there may be nothing you can do. If you try and it doesn't work out, you are Not allowed to have guilt feelings! Do what you can and move on.
First, does he have local family? A brother? An aunt he is close to? Are they aware of his dementia diagnosis? Are they aware of his abuse? Do they know you broke up with him? If there are caring family members around bring them up to date. Point out that you are no longer going to be looking out for him.
If family isn't available, I think I'd contact APS. Adult Protective Services has the job of protecting vulnerable adults from exploitation and damage. Having dementia makes this man vulnerable, no matter what his age is. They would investigate to see if he is a danger to himself or others. Be very clear that you have no responsibilities for him; you just want to see him get help. If he won't cooperate they may not be able to do anything, but at least you would have tried.
Keep in touch here. We want to here that you are safe.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I agree that you may have to sever all ties. Your number one priority must be your own safety. Do what you have to do to esdure that. Change the lock on your door if he has a key.
If you still care about the man he used to be, and you want to play good Samaritan to a very sick person, you might also try getting him some help. I say "try" because you really have no legal leverage and there may be nothing you can do. If you try and it doesn't work out, you are Not allowed to have guilt feelings! Do what you can and move on.
First, does he have local family? A brother? An aunt he is close to? Are they aware of his dementia diagnosis? Are they aware of his abuse? Do they know you broke up with him? If there are caring family members around bring them up to date. Point out that you are no longer going to be looking out for him.
If family isn't available, I think I'd contact APS. Adult Protective Services has the job of protecting vulnerable adults from exploitation and damage. Having dementia makes this man vulnerable, no matter what his age is. They would investigate to see if he is a danger to himself or others. Be very clear that you have no responsibilities for him; you just want to see him get help. If he won't cooperate they may not be able to do anything, but at least you would have tried.
Keep in touch here. We want to here that you are safe.