Recently I was in a couple of nursing homes. In both cases it was mid afternoon and it looked like about a dozen residents were arranged in their wheelchairs or other chairs around the nursing station. The residents mostly seemed asleep or dazed. No one was talking.
Is this the normal way they supervise groups of residents in facilities? or is it a bad sign that the staff and residents are not engaged? I didn't expect a party atmosphere, but this looked depressing.
So I wouldn’t be concerned if there’s a group of people near the station. I would be worried if there were no residents at any activities. And I would be very worried if residents are left in the hallways away from the eyes of the nursing station. And you might see a different picture if you visited in the morning.
You're right about the party atmosphere, though; and I have to admit that thinking back to the various views elders I know have had, it's made no real difference to how engaged any one of them was by that stage. Lovely gardens, art works, tropical fish, t.v., souvenirs, photos, other people... I suppose by the time you're that frail and tired, what's inside your head claims most of the attention you can spare.
All of these places seem to be understaffed, the job is hard, often unpleasant and the pay very low. One wonders where the many thousands of $s goes that is paid each month for a residents care.
I have experience of working in NHs and being in rehab in one as was my late husband.
Neither of us was ever put in a wheel chair and parked some where, we would never have tolerated that. As it was we were quite vocal in our complaints.
In time the joy wore off, but it was great while it lasted.
At first we, too, thought this was terrible. Then when Mom asked to sit there “& watch the action” when each of us would leave, we looked at it from her frame of reference. She loved watching all the comings and goings; loved being greeted by people walking by; loved talking with others about her beloved Yankees; loved gossiping with other residents; and overall just loved the quiet companionship of others. A bonus was she could doze off & on when her body told her it needed it.
We came to realize that initially we were projecting our own expectations & lack of limits on her situation. WE would find it awful if we, who could move freely, were forced to sit there. However, for Mom, who wasn’t mobile, it was the best thing possible. It actually was no different than her & I sitting in the garden or the great room together & watching others. It was certainly preferable to her being isolated in her room. Or being forced to participate in an activity she had no interest in.
Mom, who was way down the dementia path, was still teaching her middle-age children a thing or two!
And there is always your county ombudsman. If you notice sub-par care, call your ombudsman. This phone number must, by law, be posted in every nursing home. I'm so glad you've noticed this important fact of nursing-home life.
after four falls in the home and i was having a nervous b not recovered from the sudden death of brother and funeral so i looked in the phone book and
found a facility up the street, well they were so pushy and accomadating
going into the emergency taking his clothes looking at urine speciman to see if he would be discharged while i was writing a check in the room as a downpayment for 4700 per mo facilty..long story made short as luck would have it nurses in emergency called APS...i did not know anything
but in hindsight the nurses knew that i was being pushed and ultimitly
Dad stayed in hospital and facilty was unable to secure him and i lost the downpayment which was illegal or rather i was not told the slightest
about someone needs to be assessed in the hospital and the social workers will place dad...so i called ombusman to report this lady...due to the inefficiency and just frankly ambulance senior chasers.............my naivete..the APS called me and warned me and assisted me due to the
lady trying to put a very old sick dad in an assisted living...he was way past that...............just to grab the 4700 even for a month, no supervision no
information for me and dads gp nurse yelling at me saying i gave u a number................for your dad........this i think since brother had died and they were i should say very unhelpful as i tried to get brothers records.........he was a patient of this same doctor..........no help and just winging it.........for me ..............i got half of the downpayment back............450.00 but thks to a
conscientous nurse reporting what she thought was unusual pushy behavior i was helped...................................i went and retrieved dads clothing from the AS ,not for dad, who wasblind could not walk, needed rehab...….
and after 2 weeks in the hospital dad was assessed properly and with the APS representative with me place in a NH for rehab and stayed there until he passed six mos later ...........................
.wherever they are ...& they are never going to be satisfied...at least my mother...who is never happy wherever she is😩
I had a very experience with it with my mom who had 100% of her mental faculties but was in very bad shape physically (a bad heart and anorexia). She was placed in a rehab facility to attempt regain her strength so she could have a (hopefully) life-saving heart procedure. The second day she was there, they had done that with her. I walked right by her cause I literally did not recognize my own mother--her head slumped down, quiet (the fact they did this to her was overwhelmingly depressing to her--and me). I went to her room, she wasn't there, walked back out, saw it was her lined up near the nurse's station and I flipped out. I demanded to speak with the head nurse who said that's the way they do things for "the patient's own safety."
Long story short, I got my mother transferred to another rehab facility where they absolutely didn't do that, they put in the extra effort and she got to live out her last days (unfortunately her sickness was too far gone and she couldn't recover) with dignity and on her terms.
My Mom, isn’t as sick yet as your Mom was and prefers to get out oout of her room to her secured place- The nurses station
Different stages of being sick
my prayers to you
social. But she feels very comfortable at the nursing station.
i personally think it is fine! Mom is happy not being in her room! Also my mom loves the fact that all the staff knows her name! Makes her feel secure and “loved”
how about diaper changing...is my only question..i would roll dad to his room around 2 pm and make smoothies..with fresh fruit orange juice,apple cider,throw in anything I picked up at the grocery store that day next door to the NH,
ok I never say the nurses offer drinks to the seniors in the circle my DAd never asked for anything...there were names on yogurts in the common freezer and perhaps they had orders or paid more but I never saw anyone giving dad anything, also he and they are all meek...dad had water all the time by his bed but he never drank it...only when I was there feeding or liguid smoothie feeding,
so yes the social aspect of sitting around is good...being in his room would be like being at home with the TV...…...Dad succumbed to a Severe UTI infection
and was sent to ICU with Toxic Shock...…..looking back it looked like Dad was
very sick for a while......he did always sleep even at home...but sometimes I thought that the staff just sort of gives up or avoids really sickly people knowing that the end is near...………….doesn't the facility need the money......they did ask if I wanted to change his room to the dementia ward...I was just being a detective..
there was a screamer in the dementia,also maybe they need to fill beds,or maybe the staff nurses are not very attentive or efficient Ill never know...skilled nursing facility I saw quite a few lapses...………...u really never knew if he ate the food..
anyway I thought the least I could do was take the vitamin c smoothies everyday
to insure some killing of bacteria in the body.
If a NH is heavily Medicaid residents, it’s going to be extremely tight on staff. Whatever the required minimum needed to be open will be what staff is. For some states, the daily Medicaid room&board reimbursement is at or below the daily operating cost. There simply isn’t the budget for more staffing. Medicaid R&B is set by your state, if you want the situation to be better, you have to vote in elected officials that will put state funds into Medicaid programs and support all Medicaid programs.
Remember this when you vote next week.
In some cases it is a "lazy" way to supervise but you do not know the underlying reasons. If this happens to a loved one ask why this is done. When touring facilities ask why this is done and how often the resident is moved if it is not a supervisory reason.
Does not mean it is right or good. If they are there of their own volition, fine. If they are there for staff convenience, a sign of inadequate staffing or lazy work ethic, IMHO