My Mother has dementia and lived in an assisted living facility until her behaviors became too disruptive and they asked us to move her. We were told her behavior would make her unsuitable for a nursing home as well. She is currently in a facility with a dementia unit and that does not seem quite right for her since her behaviors are not all the time. The other residents are more advanced than my Mother and their behavior upsets my Mom. My sisters and I feel there is a gap between a nursing home facility and the dementia unit and are having a difficult time trying to find something appropriate. I receive phone calls almost daily from my Mother begging me to get her out of there, that she doesn’t want to die there.
My dad has been in a nursing home for 6 months and for the past 3 months or so has exhibited signs of dementia. I worried that the nursing home would approach us with wanting him to move to the memory care wing but they told us that since my dad is living his last days they don't think it would benefit him to upset his routine and move him to a memory care unit.
So I'm wondering if your mom's nursing home just tried to do what they thought would be easier on your mom by moving her to memory care instead of putting her in the main facility, letting her get comfortable and adjusted to the routine only to yank her out and put her in memory care in the near future afterall.