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I am so glad to read through the comments re: travel for a funeral. I think one can be creative with being present for loved ones. My mother's sister is in a nursing home and a relative has more than once expressed her opinion that she 'strongly felt' that my mother visit her sister since it more likely be the last time they see each other in person. I looked into arrangements but can't bring myself to put my mother under this stress and she doesn't want to go. I have to say I find live video of great benefit for visits and I am in favor of this over actual visits. I missed another funeral earlier this year. My traveling to represent our family and to find care for my mother was too stressful. I stayed with my mother instead and we ended up watching a live video of the funeral mass and burial and it felt like we were just as present. For another funeral, I could not attend out of the country so contributed a photo collage memorial.
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First off, my sincerest condolences for your family's loss.

As far as travel, I agree with most everyone here - absolutely not. It's too much stress on her AND yourself. Even with a hired companion taking her, the stress is too much on your mother. And if your mother wants to challenge that, have her doctor help make the decision; I'm sure the doctor will agree to 'no travel'.

DebraJoy already offered the idea I came up with, and I concur - use FaceTime (or something similar) by mobile phone. Or have the funeral video taped, and have some of the attendees offer their input into the camera to your mother: (ex: 'Sorry you couldn't be here for the service, but we understand... the service was lovely... your brother will be greatly missed... ) - that will help your mother be a part of the moment, and others can express their sympathies creatively into the camera as well.

Best of luck!
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