Mom has been diagnosed with dementia. Several years ago my parents informed me they had created a Living Trust and their last wills. They put me on their signature card at their bank. Dad (who died from Alzheimer's 6 years ago) began instructing me regarding his financial investments, insurance policies, and other assets. My parents explained to me that, regardless of how fair they tried to be, my siblings were too jealous of me and would not be happy no matter what was decided. It was their wish that my siblings not know of the trust or wills until after they had both deceased. Thankfully, this is what happened for Dad, but not so for Mom. Mom depended on me to handle the legal and financial issues following my Dad's death.. However, the attorney we used to update the trust following Dad's death sent copies of the trust to me and my siblings. It was like baiting a cage full of sharks with red meat. Four years ago Mom was diagnosed with progressive dementia. That diagnosis has only intensified the onslaught by my siblings. They have taken from Mom's home everything they (or their children) desire that has been bequeathed to someone else. The more I try to accept what they have done, the more bold they become until I feel as though my childhood home has been ravaged. One sibling moved thousands of dollars from the Trust account to her personal account and only returned these funds when I threatened to file charges on her. Now, Mom's truth depends on who she is with at the moment and her dementia makes her suspect any and everyone that enters her home of taking her things. I seldom get to spend time alone with her and feel as if I have already lost my mother. My siblings and their children never had a strong relationship with my parents or gave them the time of day. Now that Mom can be confused and controlled, they are ingratiating themselves to her, manipulating her thoughts, and alienating her from the rest of her family. I don't have the financial means to hire an attorney, but my sister and I are co-durable power of attorneys and co-guardians for my mother. My research has taught me that taking the money is elderly coercion and taking items from her that they know have been bequeathed by others is criminal conversion. My Dad would be heart-broken if he knew one of his children was filing criminal charges on their siblings, but if I don't I am convinced the thievery will not end. What should I do?
How did this sibling access the Trust account? Was he or she an authorized signatory? I think I'd move very quickly to ensure that no other accounts are available for access.
Are the household items being removed in the house that your mother is living in?
I see from your postings that this was an issue back in July of last year. What steps were taken then, and were they successful or do the problems still exist with the siblings? Were the police brought in?
Even though the items might be intended for the siblings eventually, without your mother's permission it's inappropriate for the siblings to be removing them now.
I think you will have to involve the police, or if the items aren't in the house where your mother is living, change the locks or if you can afford it, move the items to a separate storage unit but don't tell the siblings where the unit is.
Where is Mom living and how is she being cared for?