Mother has middle stages of Alzheimer's and her table manners and social skills have disappeared. She chews with her mouth open, smacks her lips and belches loudly. She takes her napkin and blows her nose, putting it back on the table, even in restaurants. Family meals are no longer enjoyable. No amount of prompting or scolding makes a difference. When caught she claims she did not know she was doing it or says sorry, but it continues at every meal. Any suggestions?
Kmcdono I'm glad I don't get any "popping in" , just stay the hell away I'm confused enough daily for both my Mom and me and don't need any remarks from siblings...
My mums manners went about 2yrs ago and I used to get so angry with her until i realised its not her fault. She would just get angry. The fact that your mum says sorry is just so sad as awful as it is they cant help it and are not doing it on purpose or even aware of it.
I limit mums outings as she just says what she wants and thinks everyone else is deaf! Im surprised i havnt been hit be a stranger as my mum will say whatever she wants the other day we were standing by the bus a "rough" looking guy stood beside us and mum said loudly "gosh there are some wierdos around"...............this is hard!
I get same "shes not ready for a NH yet?" what they are really saying is well youre here so shes not going anywhere yet? until youve had your breakdown!!
Your solution -- not to have serving dishes on the table -- is a kind one. By plating the food in the kitchen you don't have to bring it to her attention that she shouldn't put a used fork into a serving dish of food, etc. It can be quite attractive to place food on the individual plate and perhaps add a little garnish. After the in-laws have moved around the corner you can go back to serving dishes, except when they visit.
The months and years ahead will bring additional deterioration. Continue to find ways to help preserve her dignity and pride.
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