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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Barb, I can't answer "for DeeDee", but Dee if you are still living In Austin, TX, you are amongst the many, many who are forced out of Central Texas, due to many factors. Tesla relocating in our area, Technology boom with folks coming from California with big dollars that that got when they sold their CA home, and are able to make "above asking price" for homes in Austin. The rental situation is one where rents have doubled, with the influx of people. There is a spillover into the surrounding communities, where those rental prices are skyrocketing also. Retired teachers, State workers, police and firefighters no longer live in Austin, but flee to smaller towns and face a long commute. Perhaps DeeDee's situation is different and I didn't want to answer for her, but I simply state what's happened to Central Texas.
May I ask how advanced your husband's dementia is? Is he able still to know you, to recognize when you are not present visiting and when you are? If so, this is a very tragic situation really. Given his level of care needs it would be impossible really to place him, though you may wish to explore that once you are settled. Can you tell me how far away you are, how well you yourself are to travel?
This is really difficult to even think about. I am so very, very sorry. I, like Barb, wonder what sort of division of assets is done for you and hubby that leaves you unable to afford a very small efficiency apartment.
He is in advanced stage but he still knows who I am. He cannot walk now. Sleeps a lot. Does not eat regular. Refuses food. He was very aggressive til meds were adjusted. He was sent to only nursing home that would take him I was told. And it’s in a different town than where we originally lived. I feel guilty leaving him but it’s dragging me down. Afraid I will end up sick and no family near. I will contact an attorney.
Did you visit a lawyer before you made these arrangements?
If your husband is doing a spend down to become eligible for Medicaid, you, as the Community (non-institutionalized spouse) are entitled to enough income so that you don't become impoverished.
Can you ask one of your kids to help arrange a consultation with an Elder Law attorney in your state?
Dee, when your husband entered care, you could have seen an elder lawyer to have your assets split. His split going to his care and when almost gone, Medicaid applied for. At that time, you would have been able to stay in your apartment, received enough or all of the monthly income to live on and had a car. The Spouse is not to be made impoverished. Yes, see that elder lawyer.
An alternative to your own apartment near your husband might be renting a room from someone who does that. I know of people who rent rooms for extra income; it's often a bedroom with kitchen privileges. It's important to make sure of who you live with - you certainly wouldn't want to get involved renting from a bad person - but the people I know that have done it are usually women who find themselves with more house than money after being widowed. They welcome the companionship. Maybe you even know someone who would rent a room to you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Can you tell me how far away you are, how well you yourself are to travel?
This is really difficult to even think about. I am so very, very sorry. I, like Barb, wonder what sort of division of assets is done for you and hubby that leaves you unable to afford a very small efficiency apartment.
Did you visit a lawyer before you made these arrangements?
If your husband is doing a spend down to become eligible for Medicaid, you, as the Community (non-institutionalized spouse) are entitled to enough income so that you don't become impoverished.
Can you ask one of your kids to help arrange a consultation with an Elder Law attorney in your state?
Transitional times are so stressful due to uncertainty and adjusting to new circumstances.
Wishing you peace as you sort through all of this.
I wish you very best, time to take care of you.
I wish you luck in sorting it all out.