Recently she has begun telling stories. Some are rather concerning. They change and morph often. Anyone out there that can provide me with advise on how to decipher truth from fantasy? What evaluations/medical help should I be seeking? Neurologist appointment in 2 weeks.
Telling strange stories isn't that uncommon with dementia. I would try to comfort her if the stories are troubling to her and just listen and smile if they are harmless. Obviously, if she is saying that she is being harmed or neglected in some way, I would confirm that her story is not true. She lives in the home, right? I'd check to ensure that she is safe and protected and is being well cared for.
Some people say that someone broke into their house and stole from them, but that is usually easy to confirm. Other stories may be more difficult to check out, like things that happened long ago. I'd use my own discretion on a case by case basis.
A usual story involves someone stealing from them or worst hitting them or threatening them
When my mom is super agitated (Uti) she will say that if she doesn't do as she's told they will kick her or beat her - or throw coffee on her
In earlier stages some of their stories almost sound plausible so it is hard to decipher truth from fiction unless you're hands on and know exactly what's going on
I lost my Mother 18 months ago, after 2 1/2 yrs of dilutions and hallucinations. MIL has had several episodes in the past 2 years. Each time was related to UTI's.
For example when we were in car she came out with 'your father is such a bastard he never even went to his own brother's funeral' - to which I responded that 'yes he did, so did you [mom] & I know that because I was there & not only that you [mom] did a reading at funeral' which was end of that
However a few years earlier she started saying in April that when she was 8 1/2 months pregnant with me that dad's brother hit her knee [like you would to a friend] & left mark that lasted 2 days ... by August the same story was that the mark lasted over 2 weeks with bruising & she nearly had a miscarriage [not possible at that gestation just premature labour but that didn't happen] - so those old memories are suspect at best -
I actually did a small test on mom by bringing something to her saying that she asked for it - upon reflection she 'remembered' asking for it - but she never had so thereafter I couldn't count any 'memory' she had as I basically 'planted' a memory in her
Good luck many of us have this issue - document where you can - use 'video' on cellphone which will give actions & words - especially when the story escalates - this will give you the peace of having your word taken seriously