Is it me but my little 4 year old cat was taken into the vets the other day and they have had to keep her in as she is not eating and losing weight I absolutely adore her and my mother knows this. I phoned her in floods of tears. She is 81 and hasn’t been diagnosed with anything but is housebound now, but when I told her through my tears about my little cat she just said aw right I am just watching Prince Harry on tv blah blah blah. I was really hurt and just put the phone down. She hasn’t even called to see how I am, is this an age thing or is it normal? Thanks
You may want to do some research on dementia to better educate yourself, so you can better understand exactly what your mom is going through. Teepa Snow has some great videos on You Tube as well.
I hope your cat is doing better now and that you can come to grips with all your mom is now dealing with.
My mom was never a sympathetic person, but prior to her dementia diagnosis, I began to notice her only response to my occasional distress (one example: I had to have my horse put down) was complete indifference, changing the subject, or insisting my distress or grief wasn't nearly as bad as hers, etc., etc. In other words, no filter whatever. It was one of many of her personality changes prior to her diagnosis. This went along with forgetting all of our previous conversations, constant repetition, etc. Yes, it hurts to "lose" the parent we once knew. It may possibly be dementia. Have you considered taking her to a neurologist or a doctor who specializes in geriatrics? Some are very good at discerning age-related cognitive decline from actual dementia through simple tests.
Hope your kitty improves and can come home soon! I know that would be a comfort to you! (((hugs)))