My friend lives in an apartment with her kids and her father who has dementia. The father has caused many problems in the complex, and now the complex has told her if she does not remove him they will evict her promptly. She has tried to tell him he needs to live elsewhere but he keeps returning. He climbed over a back fence to get to the complex. He told the police he needed to get to her and her kids because there was a gang fight in the complex. No matter what she does, he keeps coming back and police will not remove him because he has been living with her. Her has no long-term care insurance--only Social Security, so I assume he has Medicare and could also get Medicaid secondary. Does anyone have any suggestions as to how to take care of this when he is completely uncooperative and will not leave. He just keeps telling her he needs to get back to her and her kids--she tells him they are fine, but of course he doesn't retain or accept this. She is on the verge of losing her home. Help!
She needs to contact a social worker at the local hospital. Also perhaps an elder care attorney. Also try calling 911 when he is there, have him taken away by ambulance and refuse to take him home, citing unsafe discharge. Cruel? Not as cruel as allowing her children to become homeles.
It may be an empty threat on the part of the landlord. It's hard to evict people who are paying their rent regularly-in most states.
And yes, getting in touch with his doctor is a good place to start. Also, Adult Protective Services should be notified.
This is going to sound heartless (so I am already apologising) but does this apartment not have doors?
I'm thinking the daughter needs to take some action here - not just passively opening the door.
Either open the door to him & help him - take him for a medical assesment, get a social worker referral & go from there.
Or keep the door shut. Ask him to go please go home - calling 911 to assist if he refuses. Ask APS to get involved & check into his living situation.
Your friend needs to decide what action to take. This is her apartment & her life afterall. Is she wanting others to save her?
How long was he staying at her apartment? If the police won’t remove him, he must have been staying there awhile. Obviously management at her complex know him. A home should be a save haven for her.
Sad for him if he needs a home. Sad for her that she doesn’t have her privacy.
I am sure she is most concerned with where is she going to live if she gets kicked out. What a shame.