My 81 year old mom fell off her bike 2 weeks ago. She broke her pelvis in 2 places in addition to her elbow. After surgery on the elbow, she was moved to rehab center. After 2 rounds of PT, she was in severe pain. She now refuses PT because of the pain, is on heavy pain meds, and has been given more exrays. She has not seen one exray. The doctor managing the case hasn't given us any answers but says they may need to move her to another facility i.e. nursing home, if she doesn't progress. The insurance may run out as well. Two weeks ago Mom was a vibrant active individual living on her own. Now she's depressed, in pain, and is bedridden. Only one sibling lives nearby. The other 3 live out of state. Besides this physical disability, my mom functions cognitively and is sharp as a tack. What can we do? What options do we have if mom can't have PT or refuses PT due to her pain?
We live in a building and my aunt is on the first floor. She went into her place in her spare bedroom because it was the closer than getting to her place. She doesn't want to do anything but lay in bed. She eats only bites of food. I think mentally she has given up. I feel like she thinks she will just live in her sisters spare room forever. I'm hoping to get her into a SNF using Medicare. I'm so stressed. I KNOW without intervention she will become bedbound and just die. She is satisfied just laying in bed 24/7 and letting me clean her. I'm also not working and can't even think about job searching with all this. It's all on me. I'm scared she will refuse PT because she doesn't even want to sit up against pillows let alone stand. She wants to eat, drink, talk, watch tv all while laying down. I think she will lose what little mobility she has if she doesn't get into rehab fast. The hospital has set up home PT and she are moving at a snails pace. I'm happy she can still stand and move with a walker and think with PT she can become more mobile. I think she wants to get back to her old self but doesn't want to do the work to get it. She was lazy before, now it's 1,000 times worse. She's 74 and was able bodied before the hospital. This is terrible and so stressful.
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