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My brother has passed away unexpectedly. I have been quoted $4000-5000 then $2500 now $1800. He is in central NJ Ocean County. All I want are basic services and prayer cards. Thank you in advance.
Be careful. Go slow. They’re out to fleece you. Take somebody with you that is a disinterested party, that is not emotionally involved and has been down this road before to help make your decisions.
I live in West SJersey. My X was cremated 3 yrs ago and the cost was 2300 for the cremation. If you want a service, that will cost extra as well the prayer cards.
My suggestion. Have him cremated then if he was a Church goer ask if u can have the service in Church or the chapel. You can donate to the minister and the Church which will be cheaper than using the funeral home. Just went to one like this and they had placed the urn inside a wreath of flowers. Very pretty. People can pay their respects and you can have a sm service. At my Church, the women put on a luncheon. Most of the food is catered but the Church woman served and cleaned up. My Church they provide desserts.
Or just do cremation and have something at someones house. The prayer cards are nice, but what do people really do with them. I have some in a little box. Eventually, they will probably go. Do u have someone in the family that could do up something nice. With his picture and a nice verse and birth and death dates.
I’m so sorry Shane. My FIL passed at the end of May and just cremation cost us $1300. It also included transport from the nursing home to the mortuary. Of course this is in California not NJ. When my MIL passed, transportation to mortuary, a viewing, casket and 1 hour service plus transport to the cemetery was $5000. If your brother is a veteran, there are some VA funeral benefits-a small burial allowance, headstone, free burial in a national cemetery.
Shane, I hope the answers help you find a straightforward professional company that will get you through this with proper support.
I am sorry for your loss; but in addition, re-reading your profile, I can't help being worried that this is a terrible blow for you. Please let us know how you're getting on when you feel able.
Thank you everyone, all your information was so helpful.
My 71 y/o brother was found Saturday deceased in his bathroom. He had been dead for over a week or more. He & I texted and talked weekly but it wasn’t unusual for us to go 2-3 weeks without connecting.
This time I had been calling & texting him & hadn’t heard back since May 18 so I asked his building mgr to check on him for me and “tell him to call his sister”. He went & found him dead.
Yes this was the only family member I actually cared about.
My brother had schizophrenia and refused to see any psychiatrist nor any regular MD for treatment for hypertension, etc. There were times I visited him where he had such swollen legs I would offer to just take him to urgent care for a water pill. Took me years to get him to go get glasses when he told me he couldn’t see the road signs. But he never ever listened to me. So I just figured whatever happens to him in the future I would take care of him. My biggest fear was a stroke and he would live the rest of his life bedridden. But God took care of that - my brother died quickly.
But he was my beloved brother. He was never mean, had the patience of a saint and took care of my mother for years. The last 2 she started exhibiting wandering etc & being male he couldn’t continue making sure she bathed or went #2.
He is being cremated today.
He & I were into gardening & I must have 5-6 plants he shared with me that are now huge plants. I walked the garden yesterday and had a good cry.
Thank you all again!
Off to my great home state of New Jersey....To go through his apartment for the next 4-5 days.
BTW I have learned a lesson about funeral directors. I finally got it done for $1500. These people began calling me Sunday morning offering to take care of it ( cremation). He was there when they were transporting my brother out. His first offer was $4-5000. I told him he had lost his mind. Then he came down to $2500. Still too high. Ridiculous.
Yes, my husband. Thank goodness. I am in NJ now working all this through and it’s emotionally draining. A comfort was all the great stories about my brother’s kindness towards his neighbors. This warms my heart.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Shane!
My suggestion. Have him cremated then if he was a Church goer ask if u can have the service in Church or the chapel. You can donate to the minister and the Church which will be cheaper than using the funeral home. Just went to one like this and they had placed the urn inside a wreath of flowers. Very pretty. People can pay their respects and you can have a sm service. At my Church, the women put on a luncheon. Most of the food is catered but the Church woman served and cleaned up. My Church they provide desserts.
Or just do cremation and have something at someones house. The prayer cards are nice, but what do people really do with them. I have some in a little box. Eventually, they will probably go. Do u have someone in the family that could do up something nice. With his picture and a nice verse and birth and death dates.
Again I’m so sorry for your loss.
I am sorry for your loss; but in addition, re-reading your profile, I can't help being worried that this is a terrible blow for you. Please let us know how you're getting on when you feel able.
My 71 y/o brother was found Saturday deceased in his bathroom. He had been dead for over a week or more. He & I texted and talked weekly but it wasn’t unusual for us to go 2-3 weeks without connecting.
This time I had been calling & texting him & hadn’t heard back since May 18 so I asked his building mgr to check on him for me and “tell him to call his sister”. He went & found him dead.
Yes this was the only family member I actually cared about.
My brother had schizophrenia and refused to see any psychiatrist nor any regular MD for treatment for hypertension, etc. There were times I visited him where he had such swollen legs I would offer to just take him to urgent care for a water pill. Took me years to get him to go get glasses when he told me he couldn’t see the road signs. But he never ever listened to me. So I just figured whatever happens to him in the future I would take care of him. My biggest fear was a stroke and he would live the rest of his life bedridden. But God took care of that - my brother died quickly.
But he was my beloved brother. He was never mean, had the patience of a saint and took care of my mother for years. The last 2 she started exhibiting wandering etc & being male he couldn’t continue making sure she bathed or went #2.
He is being cremated today.
He & I were into gardening & I must have 5-6 plants he shared with me that are now huge plants. I walked the garden yesterday and had a good cry.
Thank you all again!
Off to my great home state of New Jersey....To go through his apartment for the next 4-5 days.
BTW I have learned a lesson about funeral directors. I finally got it done for $1500. These people began calling me Sunday morning offering to take care of it ( cremation).
He was there when they were transporting my brother out. His first offer was $4-5000. I told him he had lost his mind. Then he came down to $2500. Still too high. Ridiculous.
In my area, that is the going rate. My dad passed away last year and we paid 2,500 for cremation and an urn.
A friend of my parents said about my father's sudden, unexpected death: "better for him, worse for you."
Your brother was spared what you most dreaded but you must feel flattened. Just hugs. Will you be at the crematorium, and will anyone be with you?
http://www.dfsmemorials.com/new-jersey-cremation-services/index.html#.XP6KZiipHNI
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