I know this is a great forum with great advice. My wife has her mother living with us but her mother has lots of needs (physical and mental) and I feel guilty about the resentment I feel it has on my family’s life. I just need to be able to discuss it with someone or a group.
Will your wife consider placement? Does she know how you feel?
You won't be alone here, because the impact on family members is often discussed; but were you looking for a group with a larger proportion of husbands to it?
Call local hospitals - many times they have a caregiver’s group. About a third of my group are men.
A good resource is PsychologyToday.com. Click ‘support groups’ on left hand side and at bottom of the screen. Enter your location.
Hope this helps.
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/groups/ga/rome
Many care takers lose their way, their perspective, they spend all their time and energy on the patient and forget about their husband/wife/children and how this is affecting them.
This is a good place to vent...I wish you well!
I found this forum. That is all I found. Unless I wanted to pay for a councilor.
this forum really kept me sane. I continue to post here hoping that I can offer someone else the help I got.
the councilor was very valuable to me. But, that didn’t really happen often enough to be the kind of support I really needed. Just a friend I could talk to and rant would have been good too...but, realistically, all my friends were way past sick of hearing about it, which I am sure is very common.
come here. Often there is someone here to listen and offer sympathy.. and help
Keep your MIL in Assisted Living and make NO compromises about taking her back in your home. Tell your wife it's just not possible. She may wind up being grateful to you for taking that decision AWAY from her, you know?
Best of luck!