My wife and I have been overseeing her care, for the last 10 years, since her husband has been denying her medical care and other needs. He does not believe in doctors so we had to step in. There is no word of truth that comes out of my mother's mouth and never has been. She is very irrational and abusive, which are worsening and becoming more frequent. Her attacks have been aimed at my wife and myself. We cannot live our lives this way...help!!! Thanks in advance.
So we have set a family meeting for this Saturday. It will be my sister and brother in law, my nephew, my son and me ... and we are going to tell mom she needs to go to independent living. She has the funds. I'm so very tired of her obsessing about me and so tired of being with her constantly. I so want to enjoy my mom in her final years but the stress is really hurting me. She has already alienated my sister by 'dismissing her' and not wanting to spend any time with her and now my son, who has always loved his Grandmother -- is not happy with her.
None of this is easy.