Some dementia. Since she doesn't remember visitors (I see her almost every day) or calls, she thinks nobody is visiting or calling. She says she's lonely and all alone in her apartment. I'm not sure how to respond. I think this is her way of saying she wants to live with me or me live with her. I feel guilty about her not living with me, but I also want to have somewhat of a life. What do I say to her? Any suggestions about activities? Her sight is limited, but with a walker she can get around fairly well. She doesn't enjoy games or exercise. She does enjoy music, talks about dancing and likes cooking programs. She may be depressed. When I suggest activities, she's not interested or says she's done that before (80 years ago!). Any ideas? Thanks!
The other way to look at it is you could have her dancing a jig every day and she wouldn't remember it. My mom is constantly saying she never gets candy, but I've got her swimming in it. She just doesn't remember. I think sometimes our parents' minds get caught in a loop and that loop, whatever it is, just plays and plays and doesn't have a strong basis in reality. So relax and know that you're doing the right thing and she's where she needs to be.
From what I have read on the forums, if you pop in at a time when Mom least expects you, you could find her enjoying activities with others, and having a meals with other residents. It's a "got ya" moment :)
It would be interesting to see what happens.