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Lots of separate strands to this thread, but what they add up to is: if your husband doesn't choose to share medical information with you, that's the end of the discussion. For now, anyway.
Refuses to let you talk with medical personnel... do you mean, formally refuses them permission to share information with you? Or, more informally, won't pass the phone to them or ask them to call you or put questions to them that you have asked?
Then turning to the BP reading example: is it more that he can't be bothered and doesn't think the numbers matter especially (he has a point); or that you worry he is keeping significant information from you?
The controlling point: this could mean that he wants you to butt out of his medical care altogether, and he has that right. Or it could mean that he feels tired and annoyed when you put a lot of questions to him that he doesn't agree are important.
This must be very stressful for you, whatever the case. To reset things: ask yourself what you think he *would* like you to do. I don't suppose he wants you to stop caring about his health, not really, not altogether! But if these are things he'd rather leave to his doctor's team and not have to talk or think about too much, it wouldn't be surprising if he found your questions a burden. Maybe there are better ways to support him, at least for the time being.
That's a shame. But you can't help people who don't want your help. I'm sorry. It must feel really awful to have your husband shut you out like that. Has he chosen a Health care power of attorney? It is a good idea to give that person a general idea of your health so if they need to make decisions for you, they can make informed decisions. Some people really can't accept that there may come a time when they won't be able to make their own decisions. Have you chosen someone who can speak for you if you can't speak for yourself? If it is your husband, I'd think of a Plan B if I were you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Refuses to let you talk with medical personnel... do you mean, formally refuses them permission to share information with you? Or, more informally, won't pass the phone to them or ask them to call you or put questions to them that you have asked?
Then turning to the BP reading example: is it more that he can't be bothered and doesn't think the numbers matter especially (he has a point); or that you worry he is keeping significant information from you?
The controlling point: this could mean that he wants you to butt out of his medical care altogether, and he has that right. Or it could mean that he feels tired and annoyed when you put a lot of questions to him that he doesn't agree are important.
This must be very stressful for you, whatever the case. To reset things: ask yourself what you think he *would* like you to do. I don't suppose he wants you to stop caring about his health, not really, not altogether! But if these are things he'd rather leave to his doctor's team and not have to talk or think about too much, it wouldn't be surprising if he found your questions a burden. Maybe there are better ways to support him, at least for the time being.
Has he chosen a Health care power of attorney? It is a good idea to give that person a general idea of your health so if they need to make decisions for you, they can make informed decisions.
Some people really can't accept that there may come a time when they won't be able to make their own decisions. Have you chosen someone who can speak for you if you can't speak for yourself? If it is your husband, I'd think of a Plan B if I were you.