My 90 year old father has been diagnosed with early to moderate dementia.
For the last 2 years he has treated me dreadfully; abusive, controlling, cruel, and selfish.
He had demonstrated some of these traits throughout his life from time to time, but nothing like he has been in the last 2 years.
About two weeks ago his temperament changed back to the loving dad I knew growing up.
He is now kind to me, not argumentative or nasty.
I pray this is the new Dad going forward, but I am worried that this kind nature will not last long and he will revert back to the monster he has been again.
Any advice or sharing of similar stories would be very much appreciated.
Thank you
Nobody can say how your dad's temperament will change, or IF it will even. Just enjoy the 'nice dad' while he's around, and pray that it stays that way for the rest of his life, Amen. :)
as you know very well, no one can guess the future about your dad:
"nice dad" can stay, or mean dad can come back.
normally, mean people who are suddenly "nice", are quite calculating. they want something from you. (even people with dementia can be calculating).
When she was suffering from dementia, she seemed to forget those coping behaviors, if that's what they were. She was a nice old gray-haired lady. She got along with the caregivers and others. Granted, she didn't know who she was or where she was anymore, but she was nice at last. It was as if her brain was no longer capable of being who she was before. In her case, it was a good thing.
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