She has dementia, and fiddles with everything. I tell her we have to leave 1 hour before we do, and were still late. It causes a lot of stress. She is so easily distracted, that she constantly moves from one thing to the next, and forgets what she is doing. I have tried everything!!! No matter what I do, we end up arguing. It is very stressful for both of us. She has been living with us for 18+ years.
Do this in a place where there is nothing to fiddle with.
Unless your mother then announces that she needs the loo/is going to be sick/didn't want to see her friend anyway, of course.
I'm sure it is VERY stressful. So, the thing is, I think that the only that can change are your expectations. She appears to need much more help than in the past.
I would strongly consider hiring an aide for a bit of time, hopefully every day, to help her with her ADLs.
Do you think this has been a slow, steady decline or did it just kind of downslide quickly? If it was very quick, you might want to look into it with her doctor?
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