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She is 89, has sitters 24/7. She can feed herself and if in wheelchair can paddle with her feet through the house. She only had use of 1 arm. I let her go through her stuff, it’s hers. Just not sure why she is doing it.

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Yes. I am 80 so some pretty good "reasons why" occur to me. I am by nature organized. In fact a little OCD about it. But the one thing I love to do when I am feeling "our of control" or as though all of life is in fact out of control is to "clean a drawer". A closet. A cabinet. Just about anything. If it is all already clean then I will rearrange the picture. It is a sort of way to take "control" of things. Arrange them.
For me it is also a matter of being 80 I know it is a matter of time, and I don't want my daughter to have to deal with 1,000s of duplicate pictures of Europe. So I like to get things organized. Give her the things I will be giving her anyway. Sadly I am not taking anything with me. Make notes and guides about what is worth what. Where to take it when I am gone. Who to call, what is where and on and on and on.
I love to watch Hoarders. It's like my worst fears come to light. And after an episode I will go through my clean and airy little place looking for SOMETHING to throw.
Our minds are a mess, hee hee.
Whatever the reason, I bet she's perfectly happy when she is up to this, so it's a gift. Best out to you.
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Midkid58 Nov 2022
I hear you loud and clear!!

I can let a room get pretty disorganized and then one day--POW! it hits me that it's beyond being OK and I start cleaning.

Esp if I have had a day helping a friend who is a true hoarder. I spend a day at her house and we get all of one corner of one room done in 6 hrs. Come back the next DAY and she's replaced all the junk we'd tossed.

My MIL is doing this same thing but she calls it 'progressing' which makes no sense, but she has moderate dementia and def does not think in a straight line.

"Hoarders" is my dirty little secret pleasure. I feel like the tidiest woman on the planet after an episode of that.

We moved last year and didn't have time to organize, so I did toss a lot of stuff prior to the move, but now, looking at the storage room, I think I can probably toss 1/2 of what I brought.

Plus I make a "GoodWill" dropoff about twice a month!! THAT feels really good!
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It's actually known as 'rummaging' and a behavior that goes along with dementia/Alzheimer's. You do not mention that as an issue for your mother, so has she been evaluated for cognitive impairment? "Nesting" is a behavior that a new mother exhibits when getting ready for a baby to enter the home, as she creates a 'nest' for the little one.

What often goes along with rummaging is hiding things and mom losing items in general, then accusing you of stealing them or putting them somewhere she has no idea where it may be.

Here is a good article on the subject of rummaging:

https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/when-person-alzheimers-rummages-and-hides-things


If dementia is something your mom is dealing with, then I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.

Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller 
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580

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Wishing you the best of luck.
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My mother has dementia and she rummaged for maybe 5 years, mid-stage. (she is now bedridden)

Be vigilant as she rummages. Check the recycling and garbage bins. My mother dumped drawers and shelves in her previously tidy, well organized house. She hid and threw out important papers and items of value. She dumped her books all over the floor, then stuffed her book shelves full of empty tissue boxes, flyers, mail, socks, empty jars, etc., whatever she perceived as having value at that moment.
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If she has the energy to rummage, maybe try asking her to "help" you do some purposeful tasks for you, like sorting colorful socks or any sorting activity ( seperating a large bag of plastic eating utensils, etc). You buy those things just for this activity. My 101-yr old Aunt folds the same pile of kitchen towels at least twice a day.
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Well I learn something every day 😁

Today's word is *rummaged*. Brought to you by the wonderful & experienced Lealonnie. Thank you 🤗

Now I have a word for what my Mother does, has done, enjoys & seems to live for.

OCD? Keeping control? Yes + Yes. But I always felt I was missing the main purpose... Maybe the main purpose IS having something to do, keeping occupied?

I think it's about memory issues too "where's that old *thing* gone..?"
So as that declines, the skills to sort rubbish from value will decline too. As Anabanana says, keep vigilant!
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